‘Ain’t Nobody’s Business

Everything is funny as long as it happens

to somebody else.

Will Rogers

Flower on Hair by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Billie Holiday’s signature gardenias in the hair inspired this Goddess’ portraits.  (I, too, had a thing for pretty flowers in my hair until the big hair chop.)  Lady Day’s classic tunes include “Good Morning Heartache,” “What A Little Moonlight Can Do,” and “Ain’t Nobody’s Business If I Do.”   While her love affairs were numerous and complicated, pain and loss inspired her song writing–plus strength of character grown from not being beholden to another:

There ain’t nothing I can’t do

or nothing I can say

that folks don’t criticize me.

But I’m going to do

just as I want to anyway

And don’t care just what people say.

If I should take a notion

to jump into the ocean

Ain’t nobody’s business if I do.

If I go to church on Sunday

then cabaret all day on Monday

Ain’t nobody’s business if I do.

Click on “Leave a Comment” above left to share how you know what’s right for you.  xoxox

Satin Gloves by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Flower and Satin Gloves by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Flower and Satin Gloves by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

xoxox

© Sharon Birke

Text 201 697 1947

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Viva Diana Vreeland

 

A new dress doesn’t get you anywhere. 

It is the life that you are leading in the dress.

Diana Vreeland

Diana Vreeland

“I will die young…,” Diana Vreeland foretold.  This unpretty woman completely charmed me in the film documentary “Diana Vreeland:  The Eye Has to Travel.”   She reigns as THE first and unrivaled fashion editor of history, always open to the new and curious of the “Why not?”  With joie de vivre and stoic determination, she lived large in red as a fearless oracle of style and reinvention.

Born in Paris during the Belle Epoque era and educated by the world–not academics–Diana grew up with her mother’s endearment “my ugly little monster.”  This likely fueled her daring to be different and her genius in showcasing the beauty of odd features via exaggeration.  If you’re tall, wear high heels.  If you’re shy about your freckles, bare them.  She made skin and bones fashionable with the model Twiggy, dared to be the first to feature the freaky sexy lips of an unknown Mick Jagger, and insisted on an editorial spread highlighting Barbara Streisand’s big nose.

Harper’s Bazaar readers were introduced to her signature style through her colorful “Why Don’t You?” column in the summer of 1936.   Among my favorite “Why don’t you . . .” lines:

… paint a map of the world on all four walls of your boys’ nursery so they won’t grow up with a provincial point of view?

… tie an enormous bunch of silver balloons on the foot of your child’s bed on Christmas Eve?

… cover a big cork bulletin board in bright pink felt, banded with bamboo, and pin with colored thumb-tacks all your various enthusiasms as your life varies from week to week?

Vreeland’s column was an illustration of her personal credo:  Don’t live (or tell) the boring truth, be ingenious and (re)invent yourself.  Beauty to her was not just in the clothes you wear, but in the life you lead.

Dismissed by Vogue soon after the death of her husband, Diana grappled with finances and sadness.  Little did anyone guess that at 69, she was yet to begin the most successful act of her career resurrecting the Met’s Costume Institute.  Jewelry designer Kenneth Jay Lane remembers: “She made me realize the importance of positive thinking. She would say, ‘Don’t look back. Just go ahead. Give ideas away. Under every idea there’s a new idea waiting to be born.”   Jacqueline de Ribes recalls how she learned self-confidence from Vreeland while posing for Avedon portraits, “She taught me something very important that day.  She said, ‘Whatever you decide for yourself is going to be the right thing.  Don’t get influenced.'”

This style arbiter and feisty lifestyle revolutionary swore she would die young… “Maybe I’ll die when I’m 70 or 80 or 90, but I’ll be very young.”   And a legend.

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share how you celebrate your odd or ugly.

xoxox

Diana at her Harper’s Bazaar office

Diana Vreeland at Harper's Bazaar

Diana painting by William Acton

Diana Vreeland painting by William Acton

Diana Vreeland

Diana’s orientalist style painting by Edward Murray, late 1930s

Diana Vreeland painting by Edward Murray

Diana by Richard Avedon

Diana Vreeland by Richard Avedon

Then a photograph of her living room appeared in a magazine.  Never had I seen such profusion, so much red! Red on the floor, red up the walls, and textures, textures, TEXTURES! Plaid on top of paisley, flowered chintz next to silk stripes, and silver, tortoise, ebony, conch, gilt – a magnificent explosion in the midst of a beige decade, a world in which the worst sin was to ‘clash.’ You knew the moment you looked at Mrs. Vreeland’s living room that you had seen the future. And indeed, it eventually became the great cliché of New York décor.  – Mary Louise Wilson, introduction to D.V. by Diana Vreeland.

Diana Vreeland Living Room

Diana by George Hoyningen Huene

Diana Vreeland by George Hoyningen Huene

xoxox

Traveling Light

Travel is like flirting with life saying,

“I would stay and love you, but I have to go…

This is my station.”

Lisa St. Aubin de Teran

 

At the Train Station by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

I travel only with carry-on luggage–when I can sneak excess books and shoes into my husband and kids’ suitcases! 😉   Like the great Helmut Newton, I avoid heavy equipment and (try to) work out of one bag.   I warn the  kids that when they grow up,  I will visit their homes with just a toothbrush.  Even if they designate their guest closet to me, what to do with baggage that railroads us with feelings of  anger, guilt, and regret?

Sally Kempton of “Meditation for the Love of It” shares her ritual:

1. Write a few words or the story of the incident that bothers you, including what was said and done.  Describe your feelings as objectively as possible.

2. Write what comes to mind in answer to the question:   What do I need to relieve this bottled up energy?

3. Tear up or burn this paper as a symbolic gesture of release and say a blessing of thanks for the gifts painful feelings bring.

Practice this act of kindness anytime you feel confused, uncertain or ashamed–certainly a gentler alternative to beating ourselves up.   May we remember that all experiences serve to grow our strength, compassion, and understanding.  Happy New Beginnings!  Did you know TGIF actually means “Thank Goddess I’m Fabulous!”?

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share what helps you move forward in life with ease.

xoxox

Traveling Light by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Traveling Light by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Traveling Light by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

© Sharon Birke

PowerfulGoddess@me.com

201 697 1947

www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Glamour Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

Traveling Light by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

xoxox