Second Chances

The great gift of family is to be intimately acquainted with

people you would not introduce yourself to,

had life not done it for you.

Kendall Hailey

Old Hollywood Glamour by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

“What are you reading?”, my husband inquired.  It completely escaped me that the title of this Powerful Goddess’ memoir might make any spouse nervous:  Eat, Drink and ReMarry.    I wanted to tease him that if I were seriously considering such an option, I wouldn’t advertise it!  But he looked like he needed some reassuring so I explained that I’m reading this because my work is beyond beauty that is skin deep.  I am about beauty grown from strength through resilience.  I believe such beauty blossoms even more when we affirm each other’s choices in our journey home to self trust.

And Stacey Tucker’s courage in sharing her  life story is true inspiration!   I’ve always appreciated how divorce and remarriage expand our capacity for love.  Stacey’s guidebook for second marriages confirms this while lending a witty and comforting hand to women navigating new beginnings, those striving to make peace with the emotional quagmire of  the past.   Thank Goddess time and distance are on our side when it comes to revealing the humor and wisdom of our travails and distresses!  Thank you, Stacey, for generously giving of yourself through your book and gorgeous portraits here, for being a powerful example of our ability to prevail no matter what, and for the potent reminder that we do know what is best for ourselves if we we take the time to listen to our truth–and not to the opinion of (m)others.

See Stacey’s books and blog on www.StaceyLu.com and click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share how you’ve traded second guessing for second chances.

xoxox

Eat Drink & ReMarry author Stacey Tucker by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com


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Old Hollywood Glamour by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

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Glamour Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

Eat Drink & ReMarry author Stacey Tucker by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Fabulous Makeup by Wendy Boiardi

xoxox

Art of Perfection

Don’t wait.

The time will never be just right.

Napoleon Hill

Another week of the kids home (I’ve counted no school every six weeks!) always makes me swear I want to be a teacher–if only for the holiday calendar.  After a day at the Met, my daughter swears she’s never going back to any museum the rest of her life.

I wanted (her) to see Matisse:  In Search of True Painting, a virtual slideshow of how an artist’s work evolves.   Though I prefer classical paintings and sculptures, I love modern art because it generally gives you the feeling of “Hey, I can do that, too!”     The exhibit features pairs, trios or a series of the same period, according to subject matter and theme, making sense of the multiplicity of Henri Matisse’s body of work.  You see how paintings morph through several mutations as the artist changes his mind, opening himself to experimentation and new influences.

Matisse collaborated with Matrossian, an Armenian, to photograph the various stages of his painting process.  Matisse’s The Dream is presented as he originally did in a 1940 salon:  the finished work is surrounded by pictures of the painting in progress throughout that year.  He starts with a sketch of background detail and foliage that turn fewer and larger then ultimately disappear.  The woman’s head of hair starts wavy, straightens then turns wavy again, eventually becomes a bald scalp with squiggles half a year later.  The original background detail lost itself to a simple splash of red that jolts the eye.

Who would have guessed that someone like Matisse (who was revered as one of the greatest artists of the 20th century) did not find painting easy?  He continually questioned and  reevaluated his choices, borrowing stylistic elements from other artists to render his own interpretations.  This exhibit lifts the veil to the reality behind the making of any masterpiece.  It is a necessary education for many of us who compare the “work in progress” of our lives against the magnum opus of the lifetime of others.   Art being the most fundamental metaphor of our power to create, I like being assured that we can take our time evolving, experimenting, changing our minds and choices more than a few dozen times to arrive at a final decision–final being whatever we determine it to be.  And perfection being implicit in every moment.

Matisse: In Search of True Painting is at the Metropolitan Museum of Art through March 17, 2013.

Click on “Leave a comment” (above left) to share how you’ve relaxed the standard of perfection to enjoy living and breathing the evolving masterpiece of your life.

xoxox

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Images above from Google

Images below from the New York Magazine

Henri Matisse "The Dream" painting

Henri Matisse "The Dream" painting

Henri Mattise "The Dream" painting

xoxox

The Valentine Key

If I’d followed all the rules,

I’d never have gotten anywhere.

Marilyn Monroe

The Key by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

My daughter dressed herself in pink from head to toe today, so excited to give her handwritten Valentine cards to 18 classmates, a couple of teachers, and a dozen more friends after school.  I asked, “And did you make yourself a Valentine, too?”  She looked away probably wondering “What for?!”

The tale of Bluebeard in Clarissa Pinkola Estes’ “Women Who Run With the Wolves” tells of a sinister figure who marries a young girl–who else can sinister figures con? 😉  Before going away on a trip, he leaves her the keys to his castle but forbids her from opening a particular door.  Of course, she had to get curious.  Only clear thinking with some help from her siblings saves her from his wrath and certain death.

Bluebeard is that voice constantly diminishing our creativity and power, insisting we are never enough, making us feel selfish when we choose to do what we want for ourselves.  Bluebeard forbids the use of the key to self awareness because it paves the path to personal freedom.  Relinquishing our natural instincts in order to appease and please others, laying aside our dreams and desires, settling for less is the carnage that lie behind that forbidden door.

For a Valentine to touch the heart (and ovaries,) answer Clarissa’s four questions about doors we are not supposed to open and rules we are not supposed to question:

1. What stands behind?

2. What is not as it appears?

3. What do I know deep in my ovaries that I wish I did not know?

4. What of me has been killed or lays dying?

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share forbidden doors you’ve opened or wish you could.  xoxox

Goddess in Red Satin by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

 

Goddess in Red Satin by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

 

 

Goddess in Red Satin by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

 

Goddess in Red Satin by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

© Sharon Birke

201 697 1947

PowerfulGoddess@me.com

www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Glamour Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

Laughing Goddess by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

xoxox

Bootylicious Destiny

I know.

In fact, I am never wrong.

Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest

Sequins and shadow by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

My sister recommends we declare NFL Monday a national holiday for “Not Feeling Lucid” or “Not Feeling Like (Working)” Day.  Sports enthusiasts or not, we must have all stayed up for the halftime show.  And Beyonce did not disappoint.  Even if she lip-synced (which she didn’t) and challenged the definition of wholesome family entertainment (which she did, leaving husbands and sons drooling), the woman did give an electric performance with her all female band and back up dancers.   I did the math on her age (31) and 16 year career and figured that while her friends in middle school zoned out in front of the TV, she was ready to perform in it!

As her curvaceous silhouette emerged on a platform to own the stage, the voice over paid homage to her tireless perfectionism:  “Excellence must be pursued, it must be wooed, with all of one’s might and every bit of effort that we have.”   Some of us older than her 31 years would do well to say with equal conviction this quote from her pre-show interview, “All the things that I’ve done have prepared me for this.  I’m ready.  This is what I was born to do.”

Click on “Leave a Comment” to share what know you were born to do.

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Sequins and Shadows by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

© Sharon Birke

201 697 1947

PowerfulGoddess@me.com

www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Glamour Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

Sequins and Shadow by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com