If You Lean In…

Women who seek

to be equal with men

lack ambition. 

Timothy Leary

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I dare you to keep a straight face after reading this title of Gina Barreca‘s compilation of musings on life, love, and work:

If You Lean In, Will Men Just Look Down Your Blouse?

She makes her point in this excerpt:

I asked a woman, “What did you think about Sheryl Sandberg‘s Lean In?”

“At my job, if I lean in, guys just look down my blouse.”

For many of us, reading about wildly high-profile women is a form of masochism. It’s like tearing off our cuticles. We turn pages and wonder, “Why can’t I be more like her?” Then we think what we could have done better.

If only we’d been more focused as teenagers. (That probably would have been possible.) And if only we’d done our senior thesis at Harvard with Larry Summers, who’d have coached us to get our MBA at Harvard and then hired us at twenty-nine to become chief of staff at the Treasury Department. (Maybe slightly less possible.) I’m just saying that not everybody has access to the same playing field as Sandberg and that point needs to be recognized.

Until every woman has access to employment at wages equal to her male colleagues, until women are not told, as Microsoft CEO Sarya Nadella announced at the Grace Hopper Celebration of Women in Computing, that women should “trust the system” and rely on “karma” to reward them financially without asking for raises (as if that’s worked really well up to now), and until every child has a stable secure home, everything else sidesteps the real issue of equity.

I am grateful to this Powerful Goddess for her inspiration to brave new beginnings and define her own success. Click on “Leave a Comment” (top left) to share who holds the key to yours.

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Packing Light

When preparing to travel,

lay out all your clothes and all your money.

Then take half the clothes and twice the money.

Susan Heller

Jeeeeezzz! Someone please remind this winter chill it’s supposed to be elsewhere by mid-May! With the calendar ticking whether the heat turns up or not, might a summer adventure with one of these suitcases tempt you to travel light?

T. Anthony glazed red alligator leather with roomy sections, interior pockets, zip compartment, and polished nickel hardware. Anthony.com $12,000.

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Louis Vuitton Pegase 55 Epi leather in a range of happy colors comes with a garment bag. LouisVuitton.com $4,650.

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Vocier bags. Shirts, shoes and accessories go in the middle of the bag; suits and dresses slip into the outer shell for minimal folding. An easy opening provides direct access to a laptop.  The C38 made of canvas is $595. The F38 clad in leather is shown here ($1,195.)  Vocier.com.

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Tumi‘s Super Leger International four-wheeled carry-on is the lightest of the lot, allowing more weight allowance for your stuff. Tumi.com $545 is on sale now at $405.

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This duffel has compartments for clothes, smaller ones for a laptop, phone, and shoes, even a sneaky slot along the spine for ties and comes in chic black canvas or five hues of leather. Debuts in July at WoolandOak.com ($355-$575).

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Polycarbonate Zero Air II 20 inch carryon on four wheel spinner travel case. ZeroHalliburton.com at $395.

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And if a carry-on is just not enough, Send My Bag picks up your belongings and ships them almost anywhere in the world within a week.  Fedex tailored to travelers. Sed a bag, a box, even a bicycle within the US for $59 one way. Shipping from the US to Europe starts at $99 for 33 pounds. SendMyBag.com.

Click on “Leave a Comment” (top left) to share your favorite travel tote.

xoxox

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of elegant and timeless portraits

with  a Powerful Goddess portrait session Gift Certificate:

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Sharon Birke

Managing Member, DoubleSmart LLC

201 697 1947

Sharon@PowerfulGoddess.com

www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Glamour Portraits of the Goddess in Every Woman

The Perfect Mother

My mother’s menu

consisted of two choices:

Take it or leave it.

Buddy Hackett

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This Powerful Goddess has fond memories of growing up inheriting her mother’s good looks, sunshiny personality and a romantic vintage trousseau. May we all be so blessed! For those  whose gifts from their mothers did not initially appear this lovely, an excerpt from Byron Katie‘s A Thousand Names for Joy:

When my daughter attended her first of my workshops with a large group of therapists present, she was working on “the mother from hell”–which was how she had experienced me as she was growing up. She couldn’t bear to look at me as she was doing her Work; it was hard for her even to hear the sound of my voice. I was the root of her problem, she thought, and I was also her salvation; she had to ask the monster for help, which made her furious. At a certain moment she became very passionate and got right in my face saying I should have mothered her differently. I said, “That’s not my job. Mother yourself, Honey. You be the mother you always wanted.” Later she told me that that was the greatest gift I ever gave her. It turned out to be her freedom. I know the privilege of mothering myself. It’s hopeless to see it as anyone else’s job. Here’s what I’ve told all my children: “You have the perfect mother. I’m responsible for all your problems, and you’re responsible for the solutions.”

Click on “Leave a Comment” (top left) to share how you’ve been a good mother to yourself.  And have the happiest one yet!

xoxox

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Give the women you love the most unique gift

of elegant and timeless portraits

with  a Powerful Goddess portrait session Gift Certificate:

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Sharon Birke

Managing Member, DoubleSmart LLC

201 697 1947

Sharon@PowerfulGoddess.com

www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Glamour Portraits of the Goddess in Every Woman

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