Kinky Boots

It’s a good thing I was born a girl,

otherwise I’d be a drag queen.

Dolly Parton


What’s not to love about a Broadway show saved by the glamour of drag? Especially since drag queens live and breathe the power of fighting for one’s passion, overcoming prejudice and transcending stereotypes.

Based on a little seen movie from 2005, with music and lyrics by Cyndi Lauper, Kinky Boots is about a bloke named Charlie who inherits his father’s outdated shoe factory.   He finds inspiration in Lola, a drag queen, who loves to dress up but could never find heels to hold her manly weight.  Their collaboration to develop fetishwear that captures this market niche saves his factory from the depths of red–in finances and frumpy style.

Harvey Feirstein who writes the book version says his interest in Kinky Boots is the question “What is a man?”   Swishy Lola and seriously straight Charlie may be the unlikeliest of friends, yet life dealt them similar cards, parental expectations inflicting shared wounds.  Is it any less difficult to forgive others as ourselves?  Feirstein recommends drag as the best mask for all:  “When I take it off, nobody knows who I am.  When I put it on, I can be anyone I want.”

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© Sharon Birke

201 697 1947

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Too Good for Her Own Good

Between two evils,

I always choose the one I haven’t tried before.

Mae West


An excerpt from Too Good for Her Own Good by Claudia Bepko and Jo-ann Krestan:

Our fantasies are guides to our real selves.  And unless we’re acting on the basis of those fantasies, chances are we’re not taking appropriate responsibility for ourselves. Unless we allow our dreams and passions to emerge, shaped by the realistic limits of our lives, we numb ourselves by being too responsible, too much a serious adult.  In this state we usually become focused on acting in a parental way toward everyone else.  Instead of following our dreams, we take responsibility for theirs.  We feel frustrated and stuck as a result.

Many women avoid making changes or decisions because they feel they can’t bring themselves to hurt someone else.  Hurting others is a reality of real relationships.  We can’t be wholly involved and engaged with another person without sometimes hurting them because inevitably two people’s needs and impulses are different and conflict.

The bottom line is that unless we feel that the decisions we make are based on values that we’ve defined for ourselves, unless we feel we’re truly being responsive to our own needs and wants, our relationships are likely to suffer anyway.  They’ll suffer from the underlying anger and resentment that we feel because we’re not pursuing our own goals.  We can’t be genuinely responsive to others unless we’re responsible to ourselves first.

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share how you’ve been good to yourself.  Happy August!





© Sharon Birke

201 697 1947

Email me

Glamour Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

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