The Job of Perfection

The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is

giving up on being perfect and

beginning the work of becoming yourself.

Anna Quindlen

No one could put down Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson in my family.   Instead of starting with Chapter 1, my 12 year old went straight for the section on the thing dearest to his heart:  the iPad.  My mom wanted a quick turn to read about the childhood that spurred outstanding success (–and an early demise, Ma!)  I read bits and pieces amidst all this passing around while my husband, who rarely reads anything outside of work, finished the 630 pages in a week!

Steve Jobs’ story is about persisting towards perfection.  My 2012 resolutions lean more towards loving my imperfections:

1. I will see my fabulousness.  A girlfriend in her 40s drove home this lesson when she confided that the sight of her teen daughter’s amazing body (an exact replica of her own two decades ago) makes her wonder “What the heck was I complaining about?”

2.  I will speak to support trust in our own wisdom and the possibility that life is an adventure of learning from our choices, not avoiding mistakes and failures.

3. I will listen for praise and appreciation though critics and know-it-alls tend to have louder voices.

4. I will resist the urge to rip off the little hair left on my husband’s head when he insists on an extended search for the perfect sofa.   Surely being married to someone with high standards can only mean that I am perfect!  😉

Malcolm Gladwell‘s article “The Tweaker” sums up “how effectively Steve put his idiosyncrasies—his petulance, his narcissism, and his rudeness—in the service of perfection” in  the New Yorker.

How are you already perfect with your imperfections?

© Sharon Birke

Photography for the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

Powerful Goddess is a trademark of DoubleSmart LLC

2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. mountain
    Jan 13, 2012 @ 01:41:13

    Hellooooo Mrs. Perfect,

    One of my favorite thoughts is my own perfection. Not even, too many others; can’t win them all!! But what is perfection except what we see in ourselves or our little worlds that makes us happy? It’s only a state of mind and rarely exists in any other form. I can live with my imperfections because I have honed them to be who I am. There is still polishing to be done.

    The perfect sofa, that made me laugh because I have actually thought that about mine. It must be guy thing. Be patient with your husband, it does exist.

    I did have perfection in my world for a time. With my eyes open or closed, awake or asleep I felt a peacefulness I had never known before. Perhaps someday it will return.


    PS…The Goddess with flowers in her hair wearing the red dress and beautiful eyes hiding behind the book…..perfect!


    • Powerful Goddess Photography
      Jan 14, 2012 @ 08:20:25

      Another beautiful day of sunshine streaming through my window–and computer screen…
      Thank you for the appreciation and for sharing how blessed your life has been, Mountain!


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