Romancing Myself

Self-love is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting.

William Shakespeare

What’s so great about being a married woman when Valentine’s Day rolls around?

1.  Nosy buggers don’t bother us with questions like “So who’s your date?”

2.  We don’t have to wait for the phone to ring.  We can pick it up and make our own reservations–and he better show up.

3.  If we are among the lucky ones whose hubby brings a thoughtful present, we smile gratefully knowing we’ll know where to find the receipt for a return/exchange.

We learn (aka surrender) that loving ourselves is our very own business–not a man’s.

Do leave a comment to add to this list…  And have the sweetest Valentine!  

Laughing Goddess by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

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xoxox

Flamenco Passion

I have everything I had 20 years ago,

only it’s all a little lower.

Gypsy Rose Lee

Flamenco Goddess by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

She was only 12 years old when her little heart was swept away by a flamenco performance.  Since then, Marina Elana has dedicated her life to a dance that requires grace and the disciplined precision of the “compas” (rhythmic pattern.)

El baile flamenco is known for its emotional intensity, proud stance, expressive use of the arms and rhythmic stamping of the feet.  In traditional flamenco, emotional maturity is required to adequately convey the “duende” (soul) of the genre. Thus, unlike other dance forms where dancers must turn professional early to take advantage of youth, many flamenco dancers hit their peak in their thirties and continue to perform well beyond their fifties–much like the way a woman owns more and more of her power with age.

“Classical flamenco,” the style used by dance companies, is characterized by a proud, upright carriage that makes every woman look like the Powerful Goddess that she is.  At its most authentic, flamenco is danced informally at gitano (Gypsy) weddings and celebrations in Spain. “Flamenco puro,” the form closest to its gitano origins, is always performed as a solo improvisation.

And in the tradition of the courageous gypsies who originated this dance, Marina now makes New York her new home, designing her destiny with a production “Simplemente Flamenco” at Le Poisson Rouge this Friday, Feb. 3, 2012.  Ole!

 

Flamenco Goddess by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

 

 

 

Flamenco Goddess by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

 

© Sharon Birke

201 697 1947

www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Photography for the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

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Flamenco Goddess by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

xoxox

Feathers of Freedom

The function of freedom is to free someone else.

Toni Morrison

“You have a bird?,” inquired the woman standing behind me at checkout.  I was holding a big birdcage so my answer could have gone a few different ways.

“No, I don’t,” I winked.   “It’s a reminder that my bird is free!”

She grinned.

This Thanksgiving, I celebrate our freedom to choose by sharing the true story of a woman who liberated herself in fine feathery style.  Kitty Cavalier reveals:

I wasn’t always the confident life of the party.  For most of my life, I was suicidally depressed with a severe eating disorder.  My world revolved around my body, my weight and what diet I was on or not.  I wore long sleeves and long pants even in the summertime.  I made up crazy excuses so friends wouldn’t take me to the beach.  Getting undressed became traumatic even for the simple routine of taking a shower in the privacy of my own home.

Underneath all this shame was a deep seated belief that if only I were pretty enough, thin enough, charismatic enough, successful enough, fill-in-the-blank enough, my life would be better.  My body became the battleground of my grief,  shame, fear, anxieties and I hated it for not cooperating with my wishes.  Then one evening, I went to see a burlesque show…  

Click here for more on Kitty’s story and her School of Charm and Cheek.

Which  freedom will you celebrate this Thanksgiving?

Kitty Cavalier Burlesque Ostrich Fans by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

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Her Grandmother’s Corset

 Happiness is the sublime moment when

 you get out of your corset at night. 

   Joyce Grenfell

© Sharon Birke

 Juska’s grandmother

would have been proud

to see these photographs of

her granddaughter fitting her corset–

a remnant of a forgotten time

when she was once a young woman

with her own uncertain hopes

and unlived dreams.

Did her grandmother know

what a beautiful woman she was?

Grandmother's Corset Boudoir by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Or did she think her thighs were too big?

Her butt too lumpy?

What were her fears?

How was she fierce?

Grandmother's Corset Boudoir by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

How much did she like herself?

How much did she give to herself?

Grandmother's Corset by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

What were her dreams, fantasies

and unforgivable sins?

Grandmother's Corset Boudoir by sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

 Would she have recognized

her strength and courage

in Juska’s playfulness?

Her sensuality?

Grandmother's Corset Boudoir by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Would she have chosen a life

without children

to spare her belly and breasts

from stretch marks,

her heart from disappointments,

her contribution

as the glue of society unrecognized?

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Did she want to wear her hair short

but couldn’t?

What freedoms did she long for?

 Strive for?  And win?

Grandmother's Corset by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

And what about

the woman in the corset today?

How much more free

does Juska believe herself to be

in our culture of optional corsets?

Grandmother's Corset Boudoir by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Does she fret about

not filling her grandmother’s bra size?

Are her answers

to the questions above

any different?

Grandmother's Corset Boudoir by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

The story of

her grandmother’s corset lives on–

an heirloom less valuable than jewelry,

invaluable as a silent witness

to a woman’s story.

Grandmother's corset by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

This is how photography honors

the sacred ties that bind us.

 This is the power of creative portraiture.

Leave your own legacy.


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  Juska Duval so loved my narrative for her photos that

she translated this piece into Italian without my asking!!!  Read on…
La nonna di Juska
sarebbe stata orgogliosa
di vedere queste fotografie della
nipote dove indossa il suo corsetto,
un residuo di un tempo dimenticato
quando era una volta una giovane donna
con le sue speranze incerte
e i suoi sogni di una vita non vissuta.
Sua nonna sapeva che bella donna fosse?
Oppure pensava le sue cosce fossero troppo grandi?
pensava che il suo sedere fosse troppo formoso?
Quali erano le sue paure?
Quanto si piaceva?
E quanto dedicava a se stessa?
Avrebbe riconosciuto, la sua forza e il coraggio
nella giocosità Juska ?
La sua sensualità?
Avrebbe scelto una vita senza figli?
Per risparmiare il suo ventre e il seno
dalle smagliature,
il suo cuore da delusioni ?
Forse voleva portare i capelli corti
ma non poteva?
Che libertà le ha dato il tempo?
Lottare per? E vincere per?
E che dire della donna in corsetto di oggi?
Quanto più libera?
Juska ci fa credere di esserlo nella nostra cultura di corsetti opzionali.
Si preoccupa di non riempire la taglia del reggiseno della nonna.
Cosa è cambiato da allora
cosa è diverso?
La storia di una donna vive con un cimelio di famiglia
meno consistente in valore di un gioiello,
ma inestimabile come testimonianza silenziosa.
Questo è il modo in cui la fotografia onora il legame sacro che ci lega.
Questo è il potere della ritrattistica creativa.

 

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