Thicker Skin

The cause of trouble is that

the stupid are cocksure,

while the intelligent

are full of doubt.

Bertrand Russell


“Are we allowed?” my children might wonder aloud amongst themselves and I’d get mixed feelings. Because while parental rule is far easier unchallenged, I quietly applaud when they demonstrate defiance and daring, little or no hesitation in going for what they want, and not cowering in the face of authority. Home is mere practice for life’s realities after all.

With three teens, every day is an exercise in pushing against boundaries, questioning or ignoring rules, and learning to bounce back after a “No”–all this even before considering their experience! I love that their personalities differ and how this helps them figure out whose criticism is constructive, whose is plain one upmanship.  Recognizing the types of people you can never please–usually the ones with loud and definitive opinions–eventually teaches us not to let anyone rain on our parade. That even if no one else is, we can always make the choice to take our own side.

I confess I want to pull my hair out listening to them bicker, each one absolutely certain that he or she is right. What saves me is the chuckle I get assuring them they are far too young to sound like an old, married couple.

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© Sharon Birke

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Glamour Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Deborah Kolb
    Jan 21, 2015 @ 10:07:37

    Beautiful Pictures and love the teen writing Happy 2015 to you Sharkie


  2. Mountain
    Jan 22, 2015 @ 08:54:06

    Beautiful and a very!! sexy Goddess. I find it interesting as my tastes change. Tattoos on women is something that I thought I would never care for but these days I see some that I find quite sexy, tastefully done like on this Goddess.

    For me growing a thicker skin has been a by-product of time. As I age my patience level has grown greater. But as my staff at work will tell and in some cases laugh at me…I can still go off, but only at my not fast enough data download! But pulling my hair out is not an option, I still have it, and my hair too. 😉

    Photo five this week—you know, Sharon! how I love B&W and mirrors in your artistic creations.

    I wonder if “mom” is really a pushover??? I doubt that!! I’m thinking though, “the perfect mom”. 🙂



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