The Guest House

This being human is a guesthouse

Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,

who violently sweep your house

empty of its furniture,

The Guest House poem and photo blog by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

still, treat each guest honorably.

He may be clearing you

out for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,

meet them at the door laughing,

and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,

because each has been sent

 as a guide from beyond.

Rumi

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xoxox

© Sharon Birke

201 697 1947

PowerfulGoddess@me.com

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Photography for the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

A Beautiful Bird in Spring

I rather you have a good mind than a cute behind.

Maya Angelou in “I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings”

In her book about art, independence and spirit, “If You Want to Write,” Brenda Ueland tells this story:

A caged bird in spring knows quite well that he might serve some end; he feels quite well that there is something for him to do, but he cannot do it. What is it? He does not remember… Then he has some vague ideas and says to himself: ‘The others make their nests and lay their eggs and bring up their little ones,” and then he knocks his head against the bars of the cage. But the cage stands there and the bird is maddened by anguish.

“‘Look at the lazy animal,’ says another bird that passes by, “he seems to be living at his ease.” Yes, the prisoner lives, his health is good, he is more or less gay when the sun shines. But then comes the season of migration. Attacks of melancholia.

“But he has got everything he wants,” say the children that tend him in his cage.

He looks at the overcast sky and he inwardly rebels against his fate. ’‘I am caged, I am caged, and you tell me I do not want anything, fools! You think I have everything I need. Oh, I beseech you, liberty, to be a bird like others birds! But I should be very glad if it were possible for you to see in me something else than an idle man of the worst type.”

Whatever cage you’re in and no matter how others judge you, how are you gentle with yourself?
Jungle Goddess by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com
Jungle Goddess by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com
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© Sharon Birke
201 697 1947
PowerfulGoddess@me.com
www.PowerfulGoddess.com
Photography for the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother
xoxox

A Day Without Buts

You and I are not what we eat.  

We are what we think.

Walter Anderson

Today’s featured articles on Huffington Post for International Women’s Day run the gamut of “How to Unleash the Power of Women,” “Give Women the Right Not to Choose,” to “Let’s Make Today the Last International Women’s Day.”   Strong voices rant over blatant injustices and impossible arbitrary demands that continue to be imposed by culture, religion, work and family.   What about our self-admnistered doses of unkindness that seem so innocuous we actually consider them normal?  “I look pretty good for my age, but I’m 10 lbs overweight.”  “Thank you for the gift, but you didn’t have to!”  “I’m sorry  if I hurt you, but what I’m saying is right, you know.”

How different might our life be if we make the choice each day to put a period (instead of a but) when we say:

I’m sorry.

Thank you.

I love you.

© Sharon Birke

201 697 1947

www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Photography for the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

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xoxox

In Praise of The Artist

True artists work for pleasure.

Auguste Rodin

I love the drama of black and white, the glamour of the roaring twenties, the memory of good old days when movies didn’t require censorship and guaranteed wholesome family fun–except for all that smoking.

Raised in the magic of Pixar color animation, my kids unanimously pronounce all black and white films as boring even if they came with a soundtrack.  Now that the Oscar has gone to Michel Hazanavicius’  The Artist, there’s a good chance even my husband will join the family and “Make room for the old!”

© Sharon Birke

201 697 1947

www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Photography for the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

xoxox

Romancing Myself

Self-love is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting.

William Shakespeare

What’s so great about being a married woman when Valentine’s Day rolls around?

1.  Nosy buggers don’t bother us with questions like “So who’s your date?”

2.  We don’t have to wait for the phone to ring.  We can pick it up and make our own reservations–and he better show up.

3.  If we are among the lucky ones whose hubby brings a thoughtful present, we smile gratefully knowing we’ll know where to find the receipt for a return/exchange.

We learn (aka surrender) that loving ourselves is our very own business–not a man’s.

Do leave a comment to add to this list…  And have the sweetest Valentine!  

Laughing Goddess by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Romancing Myself by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

© Sharon Birke

201 697 1947

www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Photography for the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

xoxox

The Year of Your Dragon

I always wanted to ride a dragon so

I decided to do this for a year

in my imagination.

   Cornelia Funke, author of The Dragon Rider 

Much of Asia is gearing up for a baby boom in the Year of the Dragon, when children are believed to be born with an extra dose of luck, strength and an inherent knack for attracting money. The qualities of her Dragon sign suit this Goddess very well–not to mention the hand painted dragons on  favorite vintage wrap!

While I’m not into woo-woo stuff, I love anything that helps a woman remember her innate powers.  So I looked up the qualities that induce Chinese parents to arrange for the birth of their child in the Year of the Dragon more than any other…  (ie, 1928, 1940, 1952, 1964, 1976, 1988, 2000, 2012)

Dragons are self-assured leaders with the Midas touch.  They get things started and keep them moving.  They are feisty and opinionated, gifted with intelligence and tenacity. They succeed in whatever they choose to do because they are dauntless and determined perfectionists.   They know how to exert authority while being gentle with the people they deal with.  Dragon women are naturally sensual.  They  also possesses a mystical side, highly attuned to their intuition and artistic creativity.  No matter what happens, Dragons ultimately always land on their feet.

What Dragon trait will you claim this year?

 

 

© Sharon Birke

2016971947

www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Photography for the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

Powerful Goddess is a trademark of DoubleSmart LLC

Painting Possibilities

Don’t ask what the world needs.

Ask what makes you come alive

and go do it.

Because what the world needs

are people who have come alive.

Howard Thurman

Aaah, the New Year, a clean slate, a blank canvas…  How do the messy details trailing us from the past clarify what to strive for as we look ahead?    And the beckoning possibilities are innumerable!   What will you choose for yourself this year, O Powerful Goddess?  Whom will you reach out to?  What freedoms will you relish?  What will you want to learn or continue to ignore?    What will you choose to do with your time and talents?  How much value will you give your “small” successes and pleasures?  How can you remember to  care for yourself, listen to your inner wisdom and feed your peace even as the world demands you do, do, do and give, give, give to others first?

Barbara Sher is one of my favorite author of self-help classics like I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was and It’s Only Too Late If You Don’t Start Now.   This loving and no-nonsense woman has been a bright guiding light in my journey of coming home to myself, insisting I dance to the beat of my own drum and honor my genius–however many.  😉  Her latest book Refuse to Choose is an invitation to create and define our own fulfillment based on what feels right for us.  What could happen when we pay closer attention to our joy and trust it as The Guru that knows how to make the most of our talents, learning abilities and work style?  That in feeding our happiness (without beating ourselves up if we don’t make a million dollars off it) we uplift and inspire others to do the same?   That there is no such thing as mistakes or failure in the lifelong adventure of exploration?

What will you paint on your 2012 canvas

that  feels right for you?  

A very thrilling beginning and Happy New Possibilities to us all!

xoxox

Sharky

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© Sharon Birke

www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Photography for the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

Powerful Goddess is a trademark of DoubleSmart LLC

Feathers of Freedom

The function of freedom is to free someone else.

Toni Morrison

“You have a bird?,” inquired the woman standing behind me at checkout.  I was holding a big birdcage so my answer could have gone a few different ways.

“No, I don’t,” I winked.   “It’s a reminder that my bird is free!”

She grinned.

This Thanksgiving, I celebrate our freedom to choose by sharing the true story of a woman who liberated herself in fine feathery style.  Kitty Cavalier reveals:

I wasn’t always the confident life of the party.  For most of my life, I was suicidally depressed with a severe eating disorder.  My world revolved around my body, my weight and what diet I was on or not.  I wore long sleeves and long pants even in the summertime.  I made up crazy excuses so friends wouldn’t take me to the beach.  Getting undressed became traumatic even for the simple routine of taking a shower in the privacy of my own home.

Underneath all this shame was a deep seated belief that if only I were pretty enough, thin enough, charismatic enough, successful enough, fill-in-the-blank enough, my life would be better.  My body became the battleground of my grief,  shame, fear, anxieties and I hated it for not cooperating with my wishes.  Then one evening, I went to see a burlesque show…  

Click here for more on Kitty’s story and her School of Charm and Cheek.

Which  freedom will you celebrate this Thanksgiving?

Kitty Cavalier Burlesque Ostrich Fans by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

© Sharon Birke

www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Photography for the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

Powerful Goddess is a trademark of DoubleSmart LLC

Hot In The Kitchen

One cannot think well, love well, sleep well,

if one has not dined well.

Virginia Woolf

I envy people who love cooking, people who create magic in their kitchen with gourmet meals and  homemade desserts–sure magnets of warm conversation, laughter and conviviality.  When such a cook looks like the Goddess in this photo series, you can triple my envy.    I used to be torn between thoughts like ” I want a mother like that!” and “I want to be a mother like that!”  until I surrendered to the fact that my talents lie elsewhere–like eating the amazing food they make! 😉

When in the company of passionate gourmands, may we savor everything their table offers and skip talk of our latest diet.   Geneen Roth, author of  “Women, Food and God” and “Lost and Found” wrote in “When Food is Love:”

A diet is similar to an oppressive, authoritarian parent who tells you what to do and when to do it.  Diets perpetuate the child in each of us who was treated with mistrust and restrictions.  Diets keep us focused outside ourselves–on what we are allowed to eat, when we are allowed to eat it, and how much of it we are allowed to have at one sitting.  Diets keeps us dependent on a source outside ourselves for our sense of well-being and self-worth.  With a diet, the anger and humiliation stay forever self-directed, we spend our lives punishing ourselves for not being good enough.

In breaking free from diets and the ensuing self-punishment, we make a choice to stop being a victim.  It creates an awareness of how our culture encourages us to define our self-worth according to externals–what we look like, how much we weigh, how much money we make.  In paying attention to what our body wants instead of imposed rules, we learn that our body is our ally, our instincts are wise, we have many choices, and we can rely on our wisdom to live compassionately with ourselves.

Add what you think, share on Facebook, tweetie please!

© 2011 Sharon Birke

www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Photography for the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

Powerful Goddess is a trademark of DoubleSmart LLC

Her Grandmother’s Corset

 Happiness is the sublime moment when

 you get out of your corset at night. 

   Joyce Grenfell

© Sharon Birke

 Juska’s grandmother

would have been proud

to see these photographs of

her granddaughter fitting her corset–

a remnant of a forgotten time

when she was once a young woman

with her own uncertain hopes

and unlived dreams.

Did her grandmother know

what a beautiful woman she was?

Grandmother's Corset Boudoir by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Or did she think her thighs were too big?

Her butt too lumpy?

What were her fears?

How was she fierce?

Grandmother's Corset Boudoir by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

How much did she like herself?

How much did she give to herself?

Grandmother's Corset by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

What were her dreams, fantasies

and unforgivable sins?

Grandmother's Corset Boudoir by sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

 Would she have recognized

her strength and courage

in Juska’s playfulness?

Her sensuality?

Grandmother's Corset Boudoir by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Would she have chosen a life

without children

to spare her belly and breasts

from stretch marks,

her heart from disappointments,

her contribution

as the glue of society unrecognized?

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Did she want to wear her hair short

but couldn’t?

What freedoms did she long for?

 Strive for?  And win?

Grandmother's Corset by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

And what about

the woman in the corset today?

How much more free

does Juska believe herself to be

in our culture of optional corsets?

Grandmother's Corset Boudoir by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Does she fret about

not filling her grandmother’s bra size?

Are her answers

to the questions above

any different?

Grandmother's Corset Boudoir by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

The story of

her grandmother’s corset lives on–

an heirloom less valuable than jewelry,

invaluable as a silent witness

to a woman’s story.

Grandmother's corset by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

This is how photography honors

the sacred ties that bind us.

 This is the power of creative portraiture.

Leave your own legacy.


© Sharon Birke

PowerfulGoddess@me.com

www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

Powerful Goddess is a trademark of DoubleSmart LLC

  Juska Duval so loved my narrative for her photos that

she translated this piece into Italian without my asking!!!  Read on…
La nonna di Juska
sarebbe stata orgogliosa
di vedere queste fotografie della
nipote dove indossa il suo corsetto,
un residuo di un tempo dimenticato
quando era una volta una giovane donna
con le sue speranze incerte
e i suoi sogni di una vita non vissuta.
Sua nonna sapeva che bella donna fosse?
Oppure pensava le sue cosce fossero troppo grandi?
pensava che il suo sedere fosse troppo formoso?
Quali erano le sue paure?
Quanto si piaceva?
E quanto dedicava a se stessa?
Avrebbe riconosciuto, la sua forza e il coraggio
nella giocosità Juska ?
La sua sensualità?
Avrebbe scelto una vita senza figli?
Per risparmiare il suo ventre e il seno
dalle smagliature,
il suo cuore da delusioni ?
Forse voleva portare i capelli corti
ma non poteva?
Che libertà le ha dato il tempo?
Lottare per? E vincere per?
E che dire della donna in corsetto di oggi?
Quanto più libera?
Juska ci fa credere di esserlo nella nostra cultura di corsetti opzionali.
Si preoccupa di non riempire la taglia del reggiseno della nonna.
Cosa è cambiato da allora
cosa è diverso?
La storia di una donna vive con un cimelio di famiglia
meno consistente in valore di un gioiello,
ma inestimabile come testimonianza silenziosa.
Questo è il modo in cui la fotografia onora il legame sacro che ci lega.
Questo è il potere della ritrattistica creativa.

 

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