And Marilyn Monroe Lives On

It’s not so much that I’m always late,

it’s just that everybody else is in such a hurry!

Marilyn Monroe

Goddess Gina Bonati was such a joy to play with–a woman who has witnessed life’s ups and downs yet remains mindful of her blessings and comfortable in her skin.   When I tell her she reminds me of Marilyn Monroe, she admits it’s been a long time since she last heard this compliment.  In her youth, she was often mistaken for the bombshell especially when she dyed her hair blonde!  We laugh as she pretends to smoke her cigarette earrings.

In honor of Marilyn’s birthday, June 1st, let’s dare say “I love you, too!” to the parts of our selves that we numb, hide or kill to be pleasing to others.  What we believe to be unworthy of acceptance and compassion is what needs these the most.

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) and tell us how Marilyn touched your life.

PS  A new photo exhibit “Marilyn & Me” by Lawrence Schiller runs until the end of this month in NYC.

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Waking Up Gently

Never work before breakfast.
If you have to work before breakfast,
eat your breakfast first.
Josh Billings

From Jon Kabat-Zinn in “Waking Up to Our Senses”:

We go from one thing to the next all day long, virtually addicted to distracting ourselves, afraid of what might happen if we didn’t fill it up, if we stopped interrupting ourselves and just settled into now.  We fill up our time and then wonder where it all went, why we feel so far from the mark, so far from our deepest aspirations, from contentment, from peace, from really being at home within ourselves and in deep connection with others.

What would it be like to settle into our own body, just lying in bed or sitting around for a few moments?  You can drop in on yourself and purposely not fill the present moment with anything, especially anxieties about the future and everything you”should” be getting done, or resentment about what has already transpired and hasn’t gone exactly as you desired.  You can play with seeing what it’s like to linger with such feelings and breathe with them for a tad longer than you are likely to think you can possibly stand.

Click on the “Leave a Comment” (above left) to tell us how you connect with yourself best in the mornings.

PS  Thank you so much, Powerful Goddess Gina Bonati, for gracing my blog with your divine beauty!

xoxox

Sharky

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The Concrete Jungle

God loved the birds and invented trees.

Man loved the birds and invented cages.

Jacques Deval

How far have we strayed from Adam and Eve’s paradise?  Humorist Art Buchwald wrote:

And Man created the plastic bag and the tin and aluminum can and the cellophane wrapper and the paper plate, and this was good because Man could then take his automobile and buy all his food in one place and He could save that which was good to eat in the refrigerator and throw away that which had no further use.  And soon the earth was covered with plastic bags and aluminum cans and paper plates and disposable bottles and there was nowhere to sit down or walk, and Man shook his head and cried:  “Look at this Godawful mess!”

Because everyday is Earth Day, click on “Leave a Comment” beside the title of this article to share your practical ideas for living green and showing kindness to our planet, not just on April 22nd:

1. Reuse:  Pack a trashless lunch (or picnic) that fills your stomach, not a landfill.  Reuse empty glass bottles to hold water (handy to grab and go for car rides, too,) pack food in washable glass or metal food containers, and use real cutlery wrapped in cloth napkins.

2. Reduce:  Save a tree without buying new equipment with Kindle for your computer…  My indestructible LL Bean canvas totes sat patiently in the trunk of my car for a full year before I actually got into the habit of taking them into the grocery store with me.   My next ambition is to remember to bring my own washable containers for the fishmonger. 😉

3.  Recycle:  Donate women’s business attires to Dress for Success, cellphones/computers/cameras to Recycling for Charities, and packing materials (like styrofoam peanuts and bubble wrap) to your local shipping store.  Libraries are happy to get your used books, CDs, DVDs– even their empty cases.  The Lions Club is likely to have a dropbox for used eyeglasses at your post office.

4. Refuse:  Before buying the next new and improved version of the latest and the greatest, take a moment to ask “Do I really need this?”

Thank you for leaving a comment and adding your ideas for creating paradise and mothering our little corner of this earth.

xoxox

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Send In The Clown

 

Housework can’t kill you,

but

why take a chance?

Phyllis Diller

 

Joan Rivers’ live standup show was packed to overflowing last week.  It was my very first time to witness her firecracker mouth other than the few times I’ve seen her blast the hapless who walk down the Oscar’s red carpet on her watch.  I laughed in hysterical disbelief– How does she get away saying what she does?!

Having grown up in Asia and having given up TV since my kids started rolling in, I’ve only been recently “introduced” to two trailblazing comediennes through their film biographies:  Joan Rivers in “A Piece of Work” and Phyllis Diller in “Goodnight, We Love You.”  Their humanity and vulnerability impress me beyond their courage to say it like it is, holding no one and nothing sacred.  Like Phyllis, I want a life full of laughs and I want to be remembered for my kindness.  At the very least, I’ll settle for their high energy on high heels when I’m 80.

This series is dedicated to the clowns who dare say and do what we don’t.   May we always laugh out loud and be so bold!

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The Guest House

This being human is a guesthouse

Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,

some momentary awareness comes

as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,

who violently sweep your house

empty of its furniture,

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still, treat each guest honorably.

He may be clearing you

out for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,

meet them at the door laughing,

and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,

because each has been sent

 as a guide from beyond.

Rumi

Click on “Leave a Comment” above left to share your thoughts.

xoxox

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A Beautiful Bird in Spring

I rather you have a good mind than a cute behind.

Maya Angelou in “I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings”

In her book about art, independence and spirit, “If You Want to Write,” Brenda Ueland tells this story:

A caged bird in spring knows quite well that he might serve some end; he feels quite well that there is something for him to do, but he cannot do it. What is it? He does not remember… Then he has some vague ideas and says to himself: ‘The others make their nests and lay their eggs and bring up their little ones,” and then he knocks his head against the bars of the cage. But the cage stands there and the bird is maddened by anguish.

“‘Look at the lazy animal,’ says another bird that passes by, “he seems to be living at his ease.” Yes, the prisoner lives, his health is good, he is more or less gay when the sun shines. But then comes the season of migration. Attacks of melancholia.

“But he has got everything he wants,” say the children that tend him in his cage.

He looks at the overcast sky and he inwardly rebels against his fate. ’‘I am caged, I am caged, and you tell me I do not want anything, fools! You think I have everything I need. Oh, I beseech you, liberty, to be a bird like others birds! But I should be very glad if it were possible for you to see in me something else than an idle man of the worst type.”

Whatever cage you’re in and no matter how others judge you, how are you gentle with yourself?
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Romancing Myself

Self-love is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting.

William Shakespeare

What’s so great about being a married woman when Valentine’s Day rolls around?

1.  Nosy buggers don’t bother us with questions like “So who’s your date?”

2.  We don’t have to wait for the phone to ring.  We can pick it up and make our own reservations–and he better show up.

3.  If we are among the lucky ones whose hubby brings a thoughtful present, we smile gratefully knowing we’ll know where to find the receipt for a return/exchange.

We learn (aka surrender) that loving ourselves is our very own business–not a man’s.

Do leave a comment to add to this list…  And have the sweetest Valentine!  

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Flamenco Passion

I have everything I had 20 years ago,

only it’s all a little lower.

Gypsy Rose Lee

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She was only 12 years old when her little heart was swept away by a flamenco performance.  Since then, Marina Elana has dedicated her life to a dance that requires grace and the disciplined precision of the “compas” (rhythmic pattern.)

El baile flamenco is known for its emotional intensity, proud stance, expressive use of the arms and rhythmic stamping of the feet.  In traditional flamenco, emotional maturity is required to adequately convey the “duende” (soul) of the genre. Thus, unlike other dance forms where dancers must turn professional early to take advantage of youth, many flamenco dancers hit their peak in their thirties and continue to perform well beyond their fifties–much like the way a woman owns more and more of her power with age.

“Classical flamenco,” the style used by dance companies, is characterized by a proud, upright carriage that makes every woman look like the Powerful Goddess that she is.  At its most authentic, flamenco is danced informally at gitano (Gypsy) weddings and celebrations in Spain. “Flamenco puro,” the form closest to its gitano origins, is always performed as a solo improvisation.

And in the tradition of the courageous gypsies who originated this dance, Marina now makes New York her new home, designing her destiny with a production “Simplemente Flamenco” at Le Poisson Rouge this Friday, Feb. 3, 2012.  Ole!

 

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The Year of Your Dragon

I always wanted to ride a dragon so

I decided to do this for a year

in my imagination.

   Cornelia Funke, author of The Dragon Rider 

Much of Asia is gearing up for a baby boom in the Year of the Dragon, when children are believed to be born with an extra dose of luck, strength and an inherent knack for attracting money. The qualities of her Dragon sign suit this Goddess very well–not to mention the hand painted dragons on  favorite vintage wrap!

While I’m not into woo-woo stuff, I love anything that helps a woman remember her innate powers.  So I looked up the qualities that induce Chinese parents to arrange for the birth of their child in the Year of the Dragon more than any other…  (ie, 1928, 1940, 1952, 1964, 1976, 1988, 2000, 2012)

Dragons are self-assured leaders with the Midas touch.  They get things started and keep them moving.  They are feisty and opinionated, gifted with intelligence and tenacity. They succeed in whatever they choose to do because they are dauntless and determined perfectionists.   They know how to exert authority while being gentle with the people they deal with.  Dragon women are naturally sensual.  They  also possesses a mystical side, highly attuned to their intuition and artistic creativity.  No matter what happens, Dragons ultimately always land on their feet.

What Dragon trait will you claim this year?

 

 

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The Guru Within

Cultures are different as can be,

but in their souls, women want the same things:

 dignity, respect, love, freedom.

Jodi Cobb

No other country can claim to be both mecca and inspiration for the proliferation of gurus as India.  Whether the expertise be yoga, business, finances, self-improvement, romance, beauty, etc…, being a devotee to someone who is supposed to know better helps us rise above challenges with the aspiration that “If (s)he can do it, so can I.”  Then there is also the convenience of having  someone else to blame when things go awry. 😉

Author Meryl Davis Landau (Downward Dog, Upward Fog) writes in Huffington Post about gurus who admit they are only human, too: How Three Top Yoga Masters Find Balance, Both On and Off the Mat.

Seane Corn, cofounder of nonprofit activist group Off the Mat, Into the World:  I used to feel envious of people I felt were living their lives fully in ease and integrity. Now I recognize that no matter how I might perceive them, everyone is dealing with issues that I can’t begin to understand. If a shadow of judgment towards others comes up, I’ll immediately come back to me:  What’s coming up for me, what does it remind me of, how can I heal it in myself?

John Friend, founder of Anusara Yoga:  After getting over the feelings of betrayal and violateion when my bookkeeper embezzled all my money, I applied the ‘three As’ from Anusara yoga. Attitude, in terms of first opening myself to the pain without denying what I was feeling, but then being optimistic that I had the capacity to get everything back. Alignment, by, instead of putting all the blame on her, taking responsibility that I had put myself in that situation by turning my finances over to another person.  This calms the mind because by taking back control I knew I was reducing the likelihood it could happen again. And action, by creating a plan to get money in the bank to pay the bills.

Ana T. Forrest, creator of Forrest Yoga and author of Fierce Medicine:     Never waste a good trigger. Triggers — something someone says that gets you white-hot angry or terrified out of proportion — are horribly uncomfortable, yet they can teach you so much. My own childhood abuse led to two key triggers: my quickness to anger and my tendency to plummet instantaneously into an emotional abyss.  A messy room left by my ex triggered my ‘unable to deal’ avoidance feelings and heart stress. He left in March 2008, but I was retriggered by this again just the other day.   I intend to clear any and all emotional trash that I find connected to this. I am okay with being a work in progress. My philosophy encompasses growing, making mistakes and learning from them as a lifelong process.

How do you pay attention to your Inner Guru?

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Painting Possibilities

Don’t ask what the world needs.

Ask what makes you come alive

and go do it.

Because what the world needs

are people who have come alive.

Howard Thurman

Aaah, the New Year, a clean slate, a blank canvas…  How do the messy details trailing us from the past clarify what to strive for as we look ahead?    And the beckoning possibilities are innumerable!   What will you choose for yourself this year, O Powerful Goddess?  Whom will you reach out to?  What freedoms will you relish?  What will you want to learn or continue to ignore?    What will you choose to do with your time and talents?  How much value will you give your “small” successes and pleasures?  How can you remember to  care for yourself, listen to your inner wisdom and feed your peace even as the world demands you do, do, do and give, give, give to others first?

Barbara Sher is one of my favorite author of self-help classics like I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was and It’s Only Too Late If You Don’t Start Now.   This loving and no-nonsense woman has been a bright guiding light in my journey of coming home to myself, insisting I dance to the beat of my own drum and honor my genius–however many.  😉  Her latest book Refuse to Choose is an invitation to create and define our own fulfillment based on what feels right for us.  What could happen when we pay closer attention to our joy and trust it as The Guru that knows how to make the most of our talents, learning abilities and work style?  That in feeding our happiness (without beating ourselves up if we don’t make a million dollars off it) we uplift and inspire others to do the same?   That there is no such thing as mistakes or failure in the lifelong adventure of exploration?

What will you paint on your 2012 canvas

that  feels right for you?  

A very thrilling beginning and Happy New Possibilities to us all!

xoxox

Sharky

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Feathers of Freedom

The function of freedom is to free someone else.

Toni Morrison

“You have a bird?,” inquired the woman standing behind me at checkout.  I was holding a big birdcage so my answer could have gone a few different ways.

“No, I don’t,” I winked.   “It’s a reminder that my bird is free!”

She grinned.

This Thanksgiving, I celebrate our freedom to choose by sharing the true story of a woman who liberated herself in fine feathery style.  Kitty Cavalier reveals:

I wasn’t always the confident life of the party.  For most of my life, I was suicidally depressed with a severe eating disorder.  My world revolved around my body, my weight and what diet I was on or not.  I wore long sleeves and long pants even in the summertime.  I made up crazy excuses so friends wouldn’t take me to the beach.  Getting undressed became traumatic even for the simple routine of taking a shower in the privacy of my own home.

Underneath all this shame was a deep seated belief that if only I were pretty enough, thin enough, charismatic enough, successful enough, fill-in-the-blank enough, my life would be better.  My body became the battleground of my grief,  shame, fear, anxieties and I hated it for not cooperating with my wishes.  Then one evening, I went to see a burlesque show…  

Click here for more on Kitty’s story and her School of Charm and Cheek.

Which  freedom will you celebrate this Thanksgiving?

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Her Grandmother’s Corset

 Happiness is the sublime moment when

 you get out of your corset at night. 

   Joyce Grenfell

© Sharon Birke

 Juska’s grandmother

would have been proud

to see these photographs of

her granddaughter fitting her corset–

a remnant of a forgotten time

when she was once a young woman

with her own uncertain hopes

and unlived dreams.

Did her grandmother know

what a beautiful woman she was?

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Or did she think her thighs were too big?

Her butt too lumpy?

What were her fears?

How was she fierce?

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How much did she like herself?

How much did she give to herself?

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What were her dreams, fantasies

and unforgivable sins?

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 Would she have recognized

her strength and courage

in Juska’s playfulness?

Her sensuality?

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Would she have chosen a life

without children

to spare her belly and breasts

from stretch marks,

her heart from disappointments,

her contribution

as the glue of society unrecognized?

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Did she want to wear her hair short

but couldn’t?

What freedoms did she long for?

 Strive for?  And win?

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And what about

the woman in the corset today?

How much more free

does Juska believe herself to be

in our culture of optional corsets?

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Does she fret about

not filling her grandmother’s bra size?

Are her answers

to the questions above

any different?

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The story of

her grandmother’s corset lives on–

an heirloom less valuable than jewelry,

invaluable as a silent witness

to a woman’s story.

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This is how photography honors

the sacred ties that bind us.

 This is the power of creative portraiture.

Leave your own legacy.


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  Juska Duval so loved my narrative for her photos that

she translated this piece into Italian without my asking!!!  Read on…
La nonna di Juska
sarebbe stata orgogliosa
di vedere queste fotografie della
nipote dove indossa il suo corsetto,
un residuo di un tempo dimenticato
quando era una volta una giovane donna
con le sue speranze incerte
e i suoi sogni di una vita non vissuta.
Sua nonna sapeva che bella donna fosse?
Oppure pensava le sue cosce fossero troppo grandi?
pensava che il suo sedere fosse troppo formoso?
Quali erano le sue paure?
Quanto si piaceva?
E quanto dedicava a se stessa?
Avrebbe riconosciuto, la sua forza e il coraggio
nella giocosità Juska ?
La sua sensualità?
Avrebbe scelto una vita senza figli?
Per risparmiare il suo ventre e il seno
dalle smagliature,
il suo cuore da delusioni ?
Forse voleva portare i capelli corti
ma non poteva?
Che libertà le ha dato il tempo?
Lottare per? E vincere per?
E che dire della donna in corsetto di oggi?
Quanto più libera?
Juska ci fa credere di esserlo nella nostra cultura di corsetti opzionali.
Si preoccupa di non riempire la taglia del reggiseno della nonna.
Cosa è cambiato da allora
cosa è diverso?
La storia di una donna vive con un cimelio di famiglia
meno consistente in valore di un gioiello,
ma inestimabile come testimonianza silenziosa.
Questo è il modo in cui la fotografia onora il legame sacro che ci lega.
Questo è il potere della ritrattistica creativa.

 

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