Thicker Skin

The cause of trouble is that

the stupid are cocksure,

while the intelligent

are full of doubt.

Bertrand Russell

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“Are we allowed?” my children might wonder aloud amongst themselves and I’d get mixed feelings. Because while parental rule is far easier unchallenged, I quietly applaud when they demonstrate defiance and daring, little or no hesitation in going for what they want, and not cowering in the face of authority. Home is mere practice for life’s realities after all.

With three teens, every day is an exercise in pushing against boundaries, questioning or ignoring rules, and learning to bounce back after a “No”–all this even before considering their experience! I love that their personalities differ and how this helps them figure out whose criticism is constructive, whose is plain one upmanship.  Recognizing the types of people you can never please–usually the ones with loud and definitive opinions–eventually teaches us not to let anyone rain on our parade. That even if no one else is, we can always make the choice to take our own side.

I confess I want to pull my hair out listening to them bicker, each one absolutely certain that he or she is right. What saves me is the chuckle I get assuring them they are far too young to sound like an old, married couple.

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Unbroken

War does not determine

who is right–

only who is left.

Bertrand Russell

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I don’t like war movies, yet with Angelina Jolie blazing a brave new trail behind the camera as producer and director of  Unbroken, how can I resist?  The story revolves around the life of Olympic athlete Louis “Louie” Zamperini and is based on the nonfiction book by Laura Hillenbrand, Unbroken: A World War II Story of Survival, Resilience, and Redemption.  From this first venture in film making, Angelina is already poised to win Best Director by the Critics’ Choice Movie Award tomorrow.

Maybe I’m not going to see the film for the sake of story. While my daughter loves her movies for her good looks and heroic roles, I suspect I go as a fan of a woman who forges her own path doing what she loves and growing in whatever direction her soul beckons, personal demons be damned!  I’ll likely be imagining what went through her head behind each scene more than paying attention to what’s in it. From bad ass teen to awe inspiring woman and mother, Angelina embodies survival, resilience and redemption herself.

On this page is Angelina as photographed by one of my favorite photographers, Annie Leibowitz, another woman of quiet strength–but that’s another blog post.

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Breaking Free

Man was born free,

yet everywhere he is in chains.

Jean-Jacques Rousseau

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What’s a New Year without new beginnings? Same old, same old.  Unless you are courageous like this Powerful Goddess who enjoyed a good laugh celebrating the dawn of her new possibilities!

How different would 2015 be if we declared ourselves perfect as the day we were born, unfettered by beliefs, convention and expectations? Fearless except for the innate fear of heights and loud noises.  Imagine being guilt free in following your desires, in satiating your ravenous appetites, in heeding the truth you hear in your heart.  Imagine not having to explain, rationalize or defend your choices.

What would be different if you paid more attention to synchronicity and all the good life brings?  If you decided you are your own fun company, best lover, and doting parent? If you said YES to everything and forgave yourself for anything?

This year, may we all dare something new, stop insisting on being happy all the time, and see ourselves with kinder and more loving eyes.

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share how rosy this year can be when you declare everything is right with you!

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Enough Coffee, Tea and Milk!

Why is Santa so jolly?

He knows where

all the bad girls live.

George Carlin

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What could happen if we all decided to be naughty and leave Santa champagne instead of the usual milk and cookies?  He’d probably lose his love handles, run Rudolph ragged on a wild joyride, and mix up the addresses of our chimneys. Nothing wrong with any of that–worst case, we just might end up finding better gifts under the tree!

Whether you’re traveling (with reindeers) or not, enjoy nibbling on these happy holiday travel treats:

Quick research. If you need an urgent answer or information re your destination, use Twitter as a de facto customer service line for travel companies and hotels.

Get a room upgrade. Be a loyal brand customer, be nice to front desk agents at check in and say “Thank you!” via social media after a great stay.

Tip generously.  At a crowded bar, get attentive service the rest of the evening by tipping generously with your first round of drinks.

Pack these Apps. Viber to call/text globally where there’s Wi-Fi and avoid roaming charges.  Lonely Planet Fast Talk to search by situation or look up local words/phrases. XE Currency for international exchange rates. MPassport to find accredited doctors near you.

Volunteer vacations. Give back while on holiday with World Wide Opportunities on Organic Farms, Globe Aware Volunteers, Habitat for Humanity, or Earthwatch.

For a comprehensive list of volunteer opportunities for  your teens: Transitions Abroad

Travel insured. Tip the scales in your favor with Berkshire Hathaway’s Aircare.  At a fixed rate of $25 purchased 24 hours before your departure. this travel insurance offers generous compensation for flight/bag delays and missed connections.

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to add your travel tips for Santa and have the merriest Ho-Ho-Ho’s wherever you go!

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Wild Women

Walking isn’t a lost art —

one must, by some means,

get to the garage. 

Evan Esar

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It’s a merry time for women from behind, as well as in front of, the camera this holiday season with top grossing movies featuring two female directors and a slew of powerful actresses. I am personally intrigued by Cheryl Strayed’s book turned movie, Wild, because it is not about a woman finding love in another.  It is about a woman finding her Self after great domestic upheaval through a 1,100 mile solitary hike in the woods.

Reese Witherspoon produced and stars in Wild, braving unshaved legs and no makeup. I like that as a mother of teens, she aspires to teach them to be brave and live life fully, with curiosity and love.  That all the things we spend time worrying about are not important.  That we will meet amazing and helpful people in our journey who will love us regardless of the parents we have.  That we will do better than ok if we choose to spend less time tearing ourselves apart and admit that we’re good enough.

As she approaches 40, she admits that in her 20s, she didn’t realize that no one else can make her whole–no relationship, no child, no nothing can make her a happy person.  I admire a woman who mans up to the reality that her happiness is up to her.  That’s wild!

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Holiday Red Carpet

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade

and have a party with

someone whose life gave them vodka.

Ron White

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If I had a party animal husband or at least one who stays up past 8:00 pm, I’d know exactly where to go for glamour gowns and dresses.  It’s the very elegant yet cozy boutique run by Paula and Maria, a mother daughter duo, who personally attend to your particular taste and style. Their shop manager, Fern, is equally charming–all so fortunate to have daughters to create happy holiday memories with. There’s nothing like personalized attention and caring service by a loving family with great fashion sense.

This lace corset style top and most unique train skirt count among their favorite ensembles this season. Feel the warm welcome when you stop by to meet them and their handpicked collection!

The Engle Shop

102 Engle Street
Englewood, NJ 07631
(201) 568-1331

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Cleopatra’s Feast

She makes hungry

where she most satisfies.

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Like this Powerful Goddess, Cleopatra’s charms went way beyond beauty.  She had a keen intellect, a theatrical sense of style, and a force of character that rendered her presence irresistible. She knew how to make an indelible first impression, a grand entrance designed to weaken the knees of an audience of one or of the entire town. Even before email and despite stiff competition while her lovers traveled far and wide enduring mortal danger to expand her queendom, she new how to stir the pot of fun to keep her man coming back for more.

What ideas does this legend inspire for an extraordinary Thanksgiving feast? Present your beloved with your glamorous Powerful Goddess Cleopatra portraits before wrapping yourself in bandages like a mummy.  Let him unwrap you with his teeth, licks and kisses required for each exposed part. Use the bandages to blindfold and tie him up later.

For now, click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to add your genius on how to make Thanksgiving memorable.

Gobble gobble!

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Queen Of The Night

The whole point

of being queen

is to be original.

Freddy Mercury

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“Say Yes to everything!” is fair warning and the only way to make the most of any experience, yes?   At Queen of the Night, Broadway’s cabaret of connection and seduction, you’re immersed in dance, performance theater, circus, magic and bacchanalia, with dinner that makes a grand entrance from the stage. Say Yes when performers want to sit on your lap, invite you to who knows what or where, or dance on top of your dinner table.  Say Yes to teasing, touching and being spoon fed dessert.  And if you can’t say Yes to the roasted suckling pig on a spit, lobster served in birdcages, or the most delicious ribs, just ask for their vegetarian table.

Queen of the Night is on limited engagement until December at the Diamond Horseshoe Theater of the Paramount Hotel.  Plan a different holiday celebration with the ladies, fun couples, or make new friends when you get there. Appoint yourselves Queens of the Night by adding bling and fur to that long dress that’s been sitting in the back of your closet!

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share what makes you feel royal.

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Declare yourself the Queen of the Night!

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Face To Face

It’s not that I’m afraid to die.

I just don’t want to be there when it happens.

Woody Allen

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When I was growing up, Halloween was All Souls Day.   Parties, costumes and candy had absolutely nothing to do with it.  The closest it came to partying was how we had to hang out with relatives at the cemetery, saying hello to the families in the grave next door as we cleaned up family plots in honor of our dear departed. I have no doubt I would have much preferred trick or treat.

From Pema Chodron’s “When Things Fall Apart”:

We are raised in a culture that fears death and hides it from us. Nevertheless, we experience it all the time. We experience it in the form of disappointment, in the form of things not working out. We experience it in the form of things always being in the process of change. When the day ends, when the second ends, when we breathe out, that’s death in everyday life.

Death in everyday life can also be defined as experiencing all the things we don’t want. Our marriage isn’t working; our job isn’t coming together. Having a relationship with death in everyday life means that we begin to be able to wait, to relax with insecurity, with panic, with embarrassment, with things, not working out. Time passing is as natural as the seasons changing and day turning into night. But getting old, getting sick losing what we love–we don’t see these events as natural occurrences. We want to ward off that sense of death, no matter what.

Giving up hope is encouragement to stick with yourself, to make friends with yourself, to not run away from yourself no matter what’s going on. Fear of death is the background of the whole thing. It’s why we feel restless, why we panic, why there’s anxiety. But if we totally experience hopelessness, giving up all hope of alternatives to the present moment, we can have a joyful relationship with our lives, an honest, direct relationship, one that no longer ignores the reality of impermanence and death.

To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest. To live fully is to be always in no-man’s land, to experience each moment as completely new and fresh. To live is to be willing to die over and over again. From an awakened point of view, that’s life. Death is wanting to hold on to what you have to have every experience confirm you and congratulate you and make you feel completely together.

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share your thoughts.  Trick or treat!

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Best of India Movies

There’s a big difference between race and culture.

Because racially, I’m an Indian man.

Culturally, not at all.

Russell Peters

Happy Diwali to you!  I love festivities of all kinds and more so when it’s rich with the brave flavors and colors of India.  To add your spice to your celebration of the Festival of Lights, click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) and  list your favorite India inspired films here:

Water

A widow forced into poverty at a temple in the holy city of Varanasi tries to escape the social restrictions imposed on her station with a man who is from the highest caste. Directed by Deepa Mehta

Slumdog Millionaire

An uneducated orphan from the slums of Mumbai gives the correct answers to all the questions on the game show “Who Wants To Be A Millionaire?” But How? Directed by Danny Boyle

The Namesake

American-born Gogol, the son of Indian immigrants, wants to fit in among his fellow New Yorkers, despite his family’s unwillingness to let go of their traditional ways. Directed by Mira Nair.

 

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Almost French

In Paris, I really do like to try and do nothing…

but that’s impossible.

Christian Louboutin

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Aussie Sarah Turnbull’s memoir “Almost French” tells of her adventures in moving to the other side of the planet with the Frenchman she married.  Reading her story was reminiscent of my own even as it transported me to the minutiae of Parisian life I may never experience as a tourist.

This Powerful Goddess also shares our story of braving a new life where love led her.  I recognize the courage it took for her to trust her choices from the first moment she decided to follow destiny, and then over and over again through life’s baths and dry spells over the years. Who can really know the strength it takes to face the challenges of solitude and personal reinvention far from supportive family and friends?  Here’s to the brave!

Click on “Leave a Comment” to share where else you’d like to live and why.

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Best Books for Brides

 Only two things are necessary to keep one’s wife happy.

First, let her think she’s having her own way.

Second, let her have it.

Lyndon B. Johnson

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The beauty of George Clooney’s gorgeous new bride, Amal Alamuddin, reminds me so much of Powerful Goddess Cora Poage.  For those of us who have many years of “been there, done that,” what does it take to keep making your “happy ever after?”   Here’s a handy collection of books for couples, newly married or not:

I Need Your Love–Is that true?  by Byron Katie

Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love: 30 Minutes a Week to the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted by Marcia Naomi Berger

The Art of War for Lovers by Connell Cowall

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz

Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray by Helen Fisher

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The Goddess of Creation

Live your life

as if it were

a work of art. 

Rabbi Abraham Heschel

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L’Shanah Tovah!  The Jewish New Year brings to mind the quote above.  I love the metaphor that like art, I create my life from chaos, messiness, not knowing better, with an eclectic mix of influences.  In honor of some of my favorite people whose birthdays and new beginnings seem to cluster at this time of year, I dedicate these musings on their life choices that have inspired me as I create my own work of art–some realizations, some questions that I’m sure has echoed in the beautiful mind of Goddesses through the ages:

What’s the fun in life without our imperfections?

Must happiness depend on owning whom or what we desire?

If we must wear “busy, busy, busy” as a badge of pride, what does such busy-ness cost us?

Whom do I allow to decide what is enough for me to want and need?

When we feel like jumping in to rescue someone in apparent hell, is it possible that (s)he may actually be in his/her version of heaven and have no wish to be saved?

Alone is not necessarily lonely.  Just as being in a relationship is no guarantee against loneliness.

A day without laughter is wasted.

True love is the gift we give ourselves. And may the giving of it be satisfaction enough so we need not become beholden to the binds of ingratitude, lack of appreciation, or unrequited love.

When fairytales spare us the details of “happily ever after,” it leaves the HOW to our imagination.

Anyone who insists you owe them your honesty simply wants to control and judge you–for your own good, of course! 😉

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Stockholm In Love

Traveling is like flirting with life.

It’s like saying, ‘I would stay and love you,

but I have to go… this is my station.’

Lisa St. Aubin de Teran

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I’m back from another European jaunt where I met a city I’d move to in a heartbeat–or at least when it’s summer!  😉

Stockholm is vibrant, cosmopolitan, surrounded by a crisscross of waterways, verdant parks, buildings both old and new, and a crowd of charming elegance.  I found that I quite enjoy being around people and public transportation that show up exactly when they say they will.  The taxi fare situation is another matter…

While I make an effort to bring a camera, I find myself reaching for the stealth of the iPhone for street and travel photography.  Add the ease of instagram for filters and web sharing et voila!  How much more fun can you have? Plenty more when you’re traveling with family and friends as tag-along models.

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to add your favorite travel and fun photography tips.

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In the photo above: Add a foreground element to make a unique cityscape. While I tried to position the sculpture of the man with an eagle “cape,” these lovers showed up adding an even more dynamic layer.

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When telling a story with pictures, set the stage with a wide opening shot (caught a pun there!)  This is the ferry I took from Helsinki to get a break from running to/from airports.  I framed the ship and waited for the next cargo truck to hit some sunlight.  The bright yellow panel is an excellent focal point and the red gates act as a leading line to direct the viewer’s eye.  On Instagram, I usually pop contrast (the icon that looks like the sun above the filter choices) before deciding if the photograph looks better with one of the filters.  Many times, popping contrast is all you need. In this case, the ship’s hull was not that shiny–the reflection you see on it is of the skyline behind me on the glass walkway where I was standing.  But, hey, would you have guessed that?

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As a committed night owl, I have to bribe myself to catch a sunrise.  While the ship sailed through the Swedish archipelago, everyone photographed the same view from the railing.  I stepped back to include my fellow early birds for a unique sunrise photograph no one else has.  Including people in your pictures helps give a reference for scale and literally adds life.  I framed for the green lamp post and waited for the man in the matching jacket to walk (movement is always interesting) a certain distance from it to balance the composition.  Notice the diagonal from the lamp to the man on the far left that eventually leads your eye to the horizon.  And how lucky the folks in the background knew to stand with spaces between them so they’re not one dark blob?

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The tiny island of Skeppsholmen may not figure much on most travel guides.  But if you want to get the best views of the city, this is where you want to be!  Walk past the Grand Hotel and the National Museum over a short bridge with a crown in the middle (see second to last photo below).  You’ll find the Asian and Modern Art Museums there.  I brought glorious weather with me, so I preferred tracing the perimeter of the island.  Local friends give you the best insider tips–Thank you, Lars and Wiveca!

The light over the cityscape looked perfect during my stroll. Whenever you find great light, remember to turn around and see what could be interesting behind you.  I found this car that drove straight off a comic book!  The shadows of the bikes/chains intersect with and lead attention towards it. On Instagram, I popped contrast and chose a filter that pleased me.  One of the pleasures of creation is:  Choose what makes you happy.

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A good rule for portraits?  Run to where there’s laughter!  Here, a tourist takes a turn with the high tech equipment of a bubble artist in Gamla Stan.  I love how the onlookers as well as the statue behind them are all rapt with attention on the girl.  Are they mesmerized by the action or her thigh highs?

Gamla Stan is the old city of Stockholm where only pedestrians are allowed.  It has two of my favorite restaurants:  (1.) Mr. French Brasserie for fabulous waterside views, excellent service, and their finger licking red shrimp appetizer. (2.) Le Rouge is very sexy red velvet for dining with someone you can cozy with.

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The diagonal of the vine covered wall against the rhythm of the windows of the yellow building caught my eye first. This couple taking their “selfie” and the sun flare were wonderful bonuses.  I also loved how the statue above them appears to be taking her own selfie or checking her cellphone.  Give your viewer a layer of elements to discover.

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I adore men in suits with red socks!  There’s a sign of someone with a sense of humor if not brave fashion style.  This man walked too fast for my iPhone to catch a good shot of his socks, but his simple dark form is a perfect anchor for the diagonals of the cars and the stripe of the bike lane that lead the viewer’s eye to the background. I love how the passing cars replicate the rhythm of the windows on the buildings’ facade.  The black and white filter creates a classic look.

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God(dess) is in the details. This red chair is a signature Scandic design so it’s good to include in the narrative.  What I was really photographing was the pair of red socks that sat still for a proper photo this time.

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Keep an eye out for shadows and patterns, use diagonals or curves with foreground and background elements. The title of this piece is “I Leave My Crown in Stockholm”…

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…As well as my heart!  Use reflective surfaces like (shop) windows that also serve as a framing device for your next selfie.

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Back to (Seduction) School

I consider a day’s teaching wasted

if we do not all have one hearty laugh.

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This morning, I kissed the kids goodbye –or good riddance? 😉 –as they dragged sleepy heads and heavy backpacks out the door.  There has been very little contest between books and computer games through the summer and it is a sad kind of funny how they find reading a chore. Will I live to see the day when they’ll fall in love with learning just for the fun of it?  Perhaps these seduction tips from Robert Greene’s “The Art of Seduction” can help me parent with charm through gritted teeth:

Remember the person who interests us most is our own self.  Get inside the other person’s skin, piercing their psychology.

Stop saying the first thing that comes to your mind–you must control the urge to prattle and vent. Say things that please, that relate to their lives and touch their vanity.  Say things that are witty and entertaining, or that make the future seem bright and hopeful.

Do not become sentimental–it is tiring, and too direct.  The most anti-seductive form of language is argument. The superior way to get people to listen and be persuaded?  Humor and a light touch.

Let them get an intriguing impression of you while you show no particular interest in them.

Focus on feelings and sensations, using expressions that are ripe with connotation. Plant ideas by dropping hints, writing suggestively without explaining yourself.  Never lecture, never seem intellectual or superior. It is more persuasive to appeal to people’s hearts than their heads.

Flattery is music to anyone’s ears and is seductive language in its purest form. This is language designed to move people and lower their tolerance.  Aim at the person’s weakness, the areas where he needs validation.  Sniff out a talent or positive quality that others have not noticed.

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share your seduction tip or two. Goddess bless all the teachers in this world!

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The Golden Girl

The true New Yorker secretly believes that

people living anywhere else

have to be, in some sense, kidding.

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This Powerful Goddess has a thing for moody portraits, yet she has that joie de vivre and a smile more sunshiny than her halo of golden hair.  As a European, she had always dreamed of living like a local in New York City.  What to do with the minor glitch of having a devoted husband whose career didn’t allow for an extended sabbatical?

“I want to live in New York for awhile,” she blurts over their dinner for two last year.

“Say that again?” her husband couldn’t be sure he heard her right.

But he did.  And knowing that this has been a big item on her bucket list, he helped figure out how to make her Manhattan adventure possible: living on her own this side of the Atlantic, taking classes to learn new skills, and expanding her world with new friends along the way.

Now that she’s back home celebrating the next chapter of her fabulous life, these portraits count among her favorite souvenirs of how well she welcomed her golden age, thanks to her great courage and her husband’s grand gesture of love and generosity.

The happiest of birthdays to you, Powerful Goddess!  You must tell your darling man he is a gem truly worth his weight in gold while I practice saying to my husband “I’d like to live in Europe for awhile.” 😉

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Remembering Robin Williams

Be kind,

for everyone you meet

is fighting a harder battle.

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A quiet pause to honor a fireball of laughs, Robin Williams. His genius for improv was said to be honed by a solitary childhood.  His standup comedy put our pain and miseries in hilarious perspective. If our darkness is the birth place of our light, why do we feel compelled to hide behind a constant cheerful mask?

While a performer lives for the audience’s laughter and applause, he must always muster the courage to bare his soul to relentless critics.  I prefer to honor this man’s great legacy through movies that family generations can enjoy together than remembering him for how he chose to die.

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Mrs. Doubtfire

My favorite Robin Williams movie!  Daniel Hillard (Williams) is a kind man and a loving father, but he’s a shaky role model for the kids so he loses custody when the wife divorced him.  Learning that his wife was advertising for a housekeeper, Daniel applies for the job as the perfect Scottish nanny so he can see his children more than once a week.

Patch Adams

A medical student strives to improve the quality of life of terminally ill patients and prove that laughter is the best medicine.  “When you treat a disease, you win or you lose. But when you treat a person, you win no matter what the outcome.”

The Fisher King

An abrasive radio deejay (Jeff Bridges) strikes up an unlikely friendship with a homeless man (Williams) who has a poignant connection to his past.

Dead Poets Society

An embattled English teacher at a private academy inspires students with the power of language and all that make life worth living:  poetry romance, love.

Birdcage

A gay couple attempts to present a “normal” family when their son brings home his fiancee’s parents.

 World’s Greatest Dad

A milquetoast high school teacher pens a phony suicide note for his son after discovering him dead of auto-erotic asphyxiation. I love the scene of how he masks frustration and tears with stifled laughter when a colleague comments “Raising a child is the toughest job you’ll ever know.”

Moscow On The Hudson

Released during the peak of the Cold War 1980s, a Soviet circus musician (played by Williams in an early dramatic role) defects to the United States while he’s in New York for a performance.

Good Morning, Vietnam

The wartime experience of real-life Armed Forces Radio Service DJ Adrian Cronauer, finding belly laughs as well as poignant drama in his attempts to survive the war while finding friendship and battling the hypocrisy of his superiors. Life, liberty, happiness is America!

 Good Will Hunting

As the therapist who helps Will Hunting (Matt Damon) move beyond his troubled past, Williams provided an impetus for the film’s touching final act while delivering some of his most sensitive dramatic work.

Aladdin

His largely ad-libbed voice work as the genie in 1992’s Aladdin represents the best of Williams firing on all cylinders and delivering some of his funniest lines without having to carry the film.

 

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Just Having a (Lucille) Ball

It’s a helluva start being able

to recognize what makes you happy.

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Because I love comedy, Old Hollywood glamour, and a woman who laughs with the world even as she makes a fool of herself, I kiss the feet of a most memorable summer birthday girl, one of America’s most beloved comedians, Lucille Ball.

Born determined on August 6, 1911, Lucille signed up for drama school in her teens despite her shy nature.  She went on to try anything and everything from modeling, radio, vaudeville, Broadway and Hollywood trying to make ends meet while keeping her family together.  She eventually produced her own iconic television show I Love Lucy, the first to be filmed in front of a live audience.  As a fearless pioneer, she was the first woman to be featured pregnant in television history and more people tuned in for the episode when she “delivered” her son than for presidential inauguration of Eisenhower.

Memorable quotes from this unforgettable funny woman:

How was I Love Lucy born? We decided that instead of divorce lawyers profiting from our mistakes, we’d profit from them.

I’m not funny. What I am is brave.

I’d rather regret the things I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.

Luck to me is hard work and realizing what is opportunity and what isn’t.

If you want something done, ask a busy person to do it. The more things you do, the more you can do.

The secret of staying young is to live honestly, eat slowly, and lie about your age.

 Love yourself first and everything else falls into place.

And her consolation for parents who’ve lost their teens to friends and/or the computers?

You see much more of your children once they leave home.

Thank you, Lucy, for all the laughter and wisdom through the years!

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Summer Fun In The City

Deep summer is

when laziness finds respectability.

Sam Keen

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When the heat is on, the fun turns up around New York City!  Here are a few things to add to your summer calendar if you’re lucky to be in town:

The 9th Annual Jazz Age Lawn Party

The Jazz Age Lawn Party was originated by Michael Arenella, the leader of the Dreamland Orchestra, steeped in the hot-dance band tradition of the 1920s and early 1930s. On Saturday, August 16, 2014 at 11:00 am (Governors Island 10 S St Slip 7, New York, NY), Governors Island steps back in time to celebrate the Jazz Age era with attendees wearing their flapper vintage best.

Shakespeare in Central Park

This is really the summer to brush up your Shakespeare. Before the endless lines begin for the Public Theater’s free Shakespeare in the Park production of “King Lear,” starring John Lithgow, observe Simon Russell Beale as directed by Sam Mendes. “King Lear” hasn’t been staged in Central Park since 1973 with James Earl Jones. Annette Bening as Goneril ups the ante (July 22-Aug. 17, publictheater.org) at the Delacorte Theater.  And when I’m in Central Park, I simply must dine at the Boathouse!

Etiquette School of New York

Make your first impression count by polishing your personal brand and mastering the do’s and don’ts of cocktail parties at the Etiquette School of New York (200 East 64th Street, Manhattan, June 26, $575, etiquette-ny.com).

Outdoors at Lincoln Center

If you missed the best outdoor dance parties of Midsummer Night Swing, Lincoln Center continues the summer celebration with a variety of shows and concerts the rest of the summer:  Dan Zanes and Peter Yarrow are among the singers for a Pete and Toshi Seeger memorial concert (July 20), Roberta Flack (July 26) and Rosanne Cash (Aug. 9), and nights of poetry and dance (July 20-Aug. 10, free, lcoutofdoors.org). The classical music heard during Mostly Mozart, of course, is not all Mozart. The monthlong extravaganza begins with the premiere of John Luther Adams’s Inuit-influenced “Sila: The Breath of the World” and makes room for a premiere work by the Mark Morris Dance Group (July 25-Aug. 23).

Queen of the Night

On Broadway until August, treat yourself to intimate encounters with the comely cast members of Queen of the Night. Every individual’s experience will be different if you happen to be chosen by any of the “butlers”–show wranglers who spirit customers away for private encounters. Your hand may be kissed, fondled or perhaps placed on a naked hip. You may find yourself  familiarly stroked as you wander the rooms of the lavishly restored Billy Rose’s Diamond Horseshoe nightclub in the basement of the Paramount Hotel on West 46th Street.

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to add what’s on your NYC summer calendar.  Stay cool!

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Why I’m Happy on My Birthday

Birthdays are good for you.

Statistics show that the people who have the most

live the longest.

Larry Lorenzoni

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Another birthday for me this week and I am happy to notice that I’m in a good place–of surrender!  I can patiently sit through women’s conversations about weight, diets, workout obsessions, and cosmetic procedures without feeling compelled to chime in or do something about myself.  But when I hear the husbands discuss the exact same topics among themselves, I do wonder, “What has our world come to?”  As we age, is it our fear of death that makes us cling to vestiges of youth and beauty?  Why, just a couple of centuries ago, men and women could not have even expected to live past their 40’s!  I say anything beyond it is a big bonus to relish, not worry over. 😉

So what does help me age graciously?  A wicked sense of humor, the thought (and threat) of the example I’m giving my daughter, and taking a lifetime to question what I grew up believing.  Plus there was that secret pact I made as a teen with God that I would not complain about anything else if my pimples would just go away, pretty please. Reality is always easier to bear with a little grin as in this Stop The Beauty Madness ad campaign.

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share what helps you relax into aging or simply write me Happy Birthday wishes!

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