10 Jul 2013
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits, Women's Empowerment
Tags: Grand Piano, NYC NJ Piano Lessons
When you play,
never mind who listens to you.
Robert Schumann

“Why don’t you take piano lessons?” a friend inquired. I had confessed I’ve been wanting to step up my self-taught oido repertoire but shudder at the dreary chore of classical training. While I enjoy listening to the elegant classics, I’m more Ella Fitzgerald than Mozart with piano playing. And would my kids let me get away with “illiterate” lessons when they have been required to read flats and sharps? I’m not telling them.
I texted their piano teacher, “Would you like a summer student who wants to play like a pro without reading sheet music?” She’s the hippie improv type despite her classical education so I knew she’d be up for the challenge. Still, I held my breath waiting for her response the next day. “That would be fun!” she said. Whew!
Last week, I sat on her bench and we began, “Show me what you know…” She taught me how to run my fingers so they don’t stumble all over each other as they discovered nooks among the black and white keys they’ve never been before. She tells me to strengthen the little used pinkie and 4th fingers, as well as my ear, by doing the tedious scales. I told her the direction I want to take and she tells me to practice, practice, practice–way before the morning of our next lesson if possible. I notice days slipping by with no time to touch the keys. There’s always one more thing on my To Do list, there’s someone sleeping so “Ssshhh!,” and I can already see the men in the house signing a petition to ban my clunky repetitious tune.
No matter, I’ll persist and be my #1 fan. I could even give procrastinating a break today. I’ll finish this blog and head straight to the keys (not Florida.) And guess what’s my beginner piece? “Summertime,” naturally.
Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share what new tricks you’re never too old to start learning.




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201 697 1947
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26 Jun 2013
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits, Luxury Hotels
Tags: Expedia, Orbitz, Travelocity, Twitter search
Be kind to your mother in law,
but pay for her board at some good hotel.
Josh Billings

Now that the kids are home for the summer, I find myself imagining the thrill of a tryst with my man or, at least, being someplace quiet by myself. A hotel room can be a sanctuary to get away from it all, a cocoon for a private adventure where you can disappear and pretend to be unfindable. The bed is a blank canvas where a new story awaits to be written. And at the very least, the simple pleasures of 24/7 room service and clean, crisp sheets we don’t have to launder are extremely sexy–even if the kids must come along!
Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to add your tips for snagging a fabulous deal at your favorite destination:
1. Loyalty pays. Avail of perks and benefits of hotel membership which usually costs nothing to join. Even if you don’t have elite status, it never hurts to ask. Club Floor rates may be higher but they can offer real value.
2. Bundles. Expedia, Orbitz, Travelocity could save you up to 20% when you bundle hotel and flight bookings. If like me, you like variety in hotel brands, Expedia has its own loyalty program where you earn points for airfare, hotel, and car rentals through their site.
3. Social Media. Use Twitter to search ongoing deals (enter the hotel name and “deal”). Introduce yourself with a “Like” or announce your enthusiasm for your upcoming visit on the hotel’s Facebook page.




xoxox
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201 697 1947
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15 May 2013
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Art and Architecture, Boudoir Photography, Paris Travel
Tags: Paris Rodin Museum, Paris What to see and do, Rodin The Kiss Sculpture

Like the great sculpture Auguste Rodin, dance and movement inspire me. Throughout his career, Rodin produced several interpretations full of sensuality or eroticism, seeking to express emotion through muscular movement and saying, “The sculptor must learn to reproduce the surface, which means all that vibrates on the surface: soul, love, passion, life.”
The passionate love of Francesca da Rimini and Paolo Malatesta portrayed in Dante’s Divine Comedy was the theme behind Rodin’s The Kiss, a blend of eroticism and idealism in the form of two lovers emerging from the highlights and shadows. Because he adored nature, Rodin turned to women as his main subject of observation. Depending on the young women who posed for him, he chose postures likely to give her body the most expression. I love that Rodin’s approach to sculpting women was a tribute to bodies, not just submissive to men but as full partners in ardor. My photography pays homage to his quote:
I do not create. I see.
And it is because I see that I am capable of making.
My favorite piece in the Musee Rodin in Paris is this small but eloquent La Valse (The Waltz) by Camille Claudel, Rodin’s much younger student, muse and then mistress. When he left her, she destroyed many of her works and eventually died alone in a psychiatric hospital.
Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share one good reason why a (talented) woman should lose her head over a man? Sigh!



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xoxox
01 May 2013
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, NYC Nightlife, Unique and Personalized Gift Ideas
Tags: Lucky Guy by Nora Ephron, Tom Hanks on Broadway, Unique and Personalized Wedding Anniversary Gift
Sometimes I’ve believed
as many as six impossible things
before breakfast.
Lewis Carroll

Two decades ago, my husband confidently announced the wedding date he had chosen guarantees that he will always remember our anniversary. Lately, giving him frank reminders 2 weeks prior and 2 days prior only made me feel like an iPhone alert to no effect. So the night before D-day, I finally asked, “Do you want to go out tomorrow?” He was still sweetly oblivious to the occasion and asks, “Why? We’re going out with friends this weekend anyway.” Grrrr! I finally confronted my laptop to make dinner reservations and grab the last 2 seats to Nora Ephron’s latest (and last) Broadway play, Lucky Guy starring Tom Hanks–which my Prince Charming had summarily dismissed as unlikely at the last minute.
My daughter woke me up too early the next morning with a three course breakfast on a rolling cart, complete with flower candles, hot tea, and a printed menu. She couldn’t convince her dad, the early bird, to get over his aversion to breakfast (and lounging) in bed, so she and I fed each other the meal she has lovingly prepared. She lay her head on my tummy and asked if I remember how a decade ago she was floating around in it. I meant it when I told her “You are my best anniversary present!” expecting her usual “I know.” Instead, she said, “I’m your gift for putting up with Dada!” And so very well worth it!
Lucky I don’t heed my mom’s advice to “marry him first and change him later.”
Lucky the qualities I married him for are still the same qualities I love about him today, despite seeing the other side of the coin.
Lucky I’ve learned to keep eyes open to the beauty of the one I wake up to everyday–because wouldn’t you know, being married to Mr. Early Bird means I usually wake up to me!
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201 697 1947
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xoxox
25 Apr 2013
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Best Books for Women, Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits
Tags: Coming to Our Senses book by Jon Kabat Zinn, Curvy Women Boudoir Portraits, Marian Keyes high heels funny quote
My shoes are so high that when I step out of them
people ask “Where did she go?”
and I have to say, “I’m down here.”
Marian Keyes

Before Manolo Blahnik, Christian Louboutin, or Jimmy Choo, here is an ancient story of how shoes came to be invented from Coming to Our Senses by Jon Kabat Zinn:
Once upon a time, a princess took a walk and stubbed her toe on a root sticking out in her path. Vexed, she went to the prime minister and insisted that he draw up an edict declaring that the entire kingdom should be paved in leather so no one would ever have to suffer her pain. Now the prime minister knew that the king always wanted to please his daughter in any and every way, so there was a good chance he would actually want to fulfill his daughter’s wishes. Covering the kingdom in leather might save everybody from the indignity of stubbed toes and make the princess happy, but this could also be problematic in many ways, to say nothing of expensive.
Thinking quickly (I won’t say “on his feet”), the prime ministers responded: “I have it! Instead of covering the whole kingdom in leather, Your Highness, why don’t we craft pieces of leather shaped to your feet and attach them in some suitable way? Then, we will still enjoy the sweetness of the earth, yet wherever you go, your feet will be protected when it touches the ground.” The princess was well pleased so shoes came into the world and much folly was averted.
Click on “Leave a Comment” above left to share how shoes and possibility thinking have saved you.



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xoxox
17 Apr 2013
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits, Women's Empowerment
Tags: Earth Day celebration, Flower Poem, Kahlil Gibran poetry
I am a kind word uttered and repeated
By the voice of Nature;
I am a star fallen from the
Blue tent upon the green carpet.

I am the daughter of the elements
With whom Winter conceived;
To whom Spring gave birth; I was
Reared in the lap of Summer and I
Slept in the bed of Autumn.

The plains are decorated with
My beautiful colours, and the air
Is scented with my fragrance.
As I embrace Slumber the eyes of
Night watch over me, and as I
Awaken I stare at the sun, which is
The only eye of the day.

I am the lover’s gift; I am the wedding wreath;
I am the memory of a moment of happiness;
I am the last gift of the living to the dead;
I am a part of joy and a part of sorrow.

But I look up high to see only the light,
And never look down to see my shadow.
This is the wisdom which man must learn.
Kahlil Gibran

© Sharon Birke
201 697 1947
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www.PowerfulGoddess.com
Glamour Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother
xoxox
Thank you, Wendy Boiardi, for fabulous makeup!
31 Mar 2013
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits, Women's Empowerment
Tags: French Newspaper, Old Polaroid Look, Paris Glamour Portraits, Paris Travel
The best thing about London
is Paris.
Diana Vreeland

Who says your closet is the only place to find something to wear for glamour portraits? This Powerful Goddess looked in her mailbox instead! The day’s headline happened to be perfect for this charming British native who has been a hip Parisienne in the past decade. I huffed and puffed struggling to keep up with her boundless energy as she zipped nonstop through venues that were meaningful to her. Then she headed off to pick up the kids from school and assume the mommy hat (beret?) the rest of the day. How does she do it? All I know is that I needed a giant nap afterwards!
With her cheerful optimism, there’s no guessing that this brave woman is in the middle of a life transition that would throw others into a tizzy. I am in awe of the courage and strength packed in her petite frame, her ability to graciously welcome another stage of growth, exploring career possibilities while juggling her roles as woman and mother. One of the great blessings of my work is meeting inspiring women like her and being appreciated for the love I put into what I do. She told me she adores photos with the 70’s finish so I gave her portraits that faded polaroid look. A very special hug and merci beaucoup to this Powerful Goddess for showing me the true meaning of “Avec plaisir!”
xoxox
Click on “Leave a comment” (above left) to share who/what gives you pleasure.
xoxox
xoxox
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201 697 1947
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Glamour Portraits for the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother
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06 Mar 2013
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Iconic Portraits, NYC Nightlife
Tags: Jackie Off Broadway by Elfriede Jelinek, Old Hollywood Glamour photography, The Marilyn Monroe Look, Women's Project Theater at NY City Center Stages
If I’d followed all the rules,
I’d never have gotten anywhere.
Marilyn Monroe

The solo play Jackie off Broadway is a witty yet disturbing exploration of submission, power, and the hypocrisy of everyday life by Elfriede Jelinek. When I think of Jackie’s respectable public persona, I can’t help wonder how she denied her Marilyn inside.
From Pamela Keogh’s book Are you a Jackie or a Marilyn? Timeless Lessons on Love, Power and Style:
Jackie and Marilyn came of age in the 1950s when socially acceptable roles of women were few. Yet they both moved beyond the strictures of their time to become icons. In terms of style, Jackie and Marilyn are opposites–light and dark. Day and night. Sophistication and playful naiveté. If Jackie symbolized well-bred propriety, Marilyn was sex. While this way of thinking dictates that women are one of the other, the fact is that most of us, really, are a mixture of both.
The Jackie woman is strong, intelligent, socially impeccable, well married, and likely a mother who takes care of others. The Marilyn Gal is vulnerable, emotionally unpredictable, enjoys sex and high living, celebrity, glamour, fake lashes and champagne. She has seen both the glamorous and unseemly sides of the world so she is understanding of the foibles of human nature. She takes people and situations as they are: hoping for the best, but not that surprised when things don’t work out. Plus, you know she’s got a few gorgeous photographs of herself stashed somewhere.
…like this Powerful Goddess here!
JackieOffBroadway.com by the Women’s Project Theater runs until March 31, 2013 at the New York City Center. You’ll love Tina Benko–a powerhouse of a solo performer!!!
Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share how you channel your inner Jackie and Marilyn.
xoxox



© Sharon Birke
201 697 1947
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http://www.PowerfulGoddess.com
Glamour Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

Another big Thank You to Wendy Boiardi for glorious makeup!
xoxox
27 Feb 2013
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits, Women's Empowerment
Tags: Eat Drink and ReMarry by Stacey Tucker, guidebook for second marriages, Old Hollywood Glamour photography
The great gift of family is to be intimately acquainted with
people you would not introduce yourself to,
had life not done it for you.
Kendall Hailey

“What are you reading?”, my husband inquired. It completely escaped me that the title of this Powerful Goddess’ memoir might make any spouse nervous: Eat, Drink and ReMarry. I wanted to tease him that if I were seriously considering such an option, I wouldn’t advertise it! But he looked like he needed some reassuring so I explained that I’m reading this because my work is beyond beauty that is skin deep. I am about beauty grown from strength through resilience. I believe such beauty blossoms even more when we affirm each other’s choices in our journey home to self trust.
And Stacey Tucker’s courage in sharing her life story is true inspiration! I’ve always appreciated how divorce and remarriage expand our capacity for love. Stacey’s guidebook for second marriages confirms this while lending a witty and comforting hand to women navigating new beginnings, those striving to make peace with the emotional quagmire of the past. Thank Goddess time and distance are on our side when it comes to revealing the humor and wisdom of our travails and distresses! Thank you, Stacey, for generously giving of yourself through your book and gorgeous portraits here, for being a powerful example of our ability to prevail no matter what, and for the potent reminder that we do know what is best for ourselves if we we take the time to listen to our truth–and not to the opinion of (m)others.
See Stacey’s books and blog on www.StaceyLu.com and click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share how you’ve traded second guessing for second chances.
xoxox



© Sharon Birke
201 697 1947
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www.PowerfulGoddess.com
Glamour Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

Fabulous Makeup by Wendy Boiardi
xoxox
21 Feb 2013
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits, Women's Empowerment
Tags: Art and Culture NYC, Henri Matisse Exhibit at the Met, Paintings and Sculptures at the Met Museum
Don’t wait.
The time will never be just right.
Napoleon Hill

Another week of the kids home (I’ve counted no school every six weeks!) always makes me swear I want to be a teacher–if only for the holiday calendar. After a day at the Met, my daughter swears she’s never going back to any museum the rest of her life.
I wanted (her) to see Matisse: In Search of True Painting, a virtual slideshow of how an artist’s work evolves. Though I prefer classical paintings and sculptures, I love modern art because it generally gives you the feeling of “Hey, I can do that, too!” The exhibit features pairs, trios or a series of the same period, according to subject matter and theme, making sense of the multiplicity of Henri Matisse’s body of work. You see how paintings morph through several mutations as the artist changes his mind, opening himself to experimentation and new influences.
Matisse collaborated with Matrossian, an Armenian, to photograph the various stages of his painting process. Matisse’s The Dream is presented as he originally did in a 1940 salon: the finished work is surrounded by pictures of the painting in progress throughout that year. He starts with a sketch of background detail and foliage that turn fewer and larger then ultimately disappear. The woman’s head of hair starts wavy, straightens then turns wavy again, eventually becomes a bald scalp with squiggles half a year later. The original background detail lost itself to a simple splash of red that jolts the eye.
Who would have guessed that someone like Matisse (who was revered as one of the greatest artists of the 20th century) did not find painting easy? He continually questioned and reevaluated his choices, borrowing stylistic elements from other artists to render his own interpretations. This exhibit lifts the veil to the reality behind the making of any masterpiece. It is a necessary education for many of us who compare the “work in progress” of our lives against the magnum opus of the lifetime of others. Art being the most fundamental metaphor of our power to create, I like being assured that we can take our time evolving, experimenting, changing our minds and choices more than a few dozen times to arrive at a final decision–final being whatever we determine it to be. And perfection being implicit in every moment.
Matisse: In Search of True Painting is at the Metropolitan Museum of Art through March 17, 2013.
Click on “Leave a comment” (above left) to share how you’ve relaxed the standard of perfection to enjoy living and breathing the evolving masterpiece of your life.
xoxox

Images above from Google
Images below from the New York Magazine



xoxox
14 Feb 2013
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Best Books for Women, Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits
Tags: Clarissa Pinkola Estes, unique & personalized Valentine gifts, Women Who Run With the Wolves book
If I’d followed all the rules,
I’d never have gotten anywhere.
Marilyn Monroe

My daughter dressed herself in pink from head to toe today, so excited to give her handwritten Valentine cards to 18 classmates, a couple of teachers, and a dozen more friends after school. I asked, “And did you make yourself a Valentine, too?” She looked away probably wondering “What for?!”
The tale of Bluebeard in Clarissa Pinkola Estes’ “Women Who Run With the Wolves” tells of a sinister figure who marries a young girl–who else can sinister figures con? 😉 Before going away on a trip, he leaves her the keys to his castle but forbids her from opening a particular door. Of course, she had to get curious. Only clear thinking with some help from her siblings saves her from his wrath and certain death.
Bluebeard is that voice constantly diminishing our creativity and power, insisting we are never enough, making us feel selfish when we choose to do what we want for ourselves. Bluebeard forbids the use of the key to self awareness because it paves the path to personal freedom. Relinquishing our natural instincts in order to appease and please others, laying aside our dreams and desires, settling for less is the carnage that lie behind that forbidden door.
For a Valentine to touch the heart (and ovaries,) answer Clarissa’s four questions about doors we are not supposed to open and rules we are not supposed to question:
1. What stands behind?
2. What is not as it appears?
3. What do I know deep in my ovaries that I wish I did not know?
4. What of me has been killed or lays dying?
Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share forbidden doors you’ve opened or wish you could. xoxox




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201 697 1947
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xoxox
05 Feb 2013
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits, Women's Empowerment
Tags: Beyonce and Destiny's Child, Beyonce Halftime Show, Super Bowl Halftime show
I know.
In fact, I am never wrong.
Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest

My sister recommends we declare NFL Monday a national holiday for “Not Feeling Lucid” or “Not Feeling Like (Working)” Day. Sports enthusiasts or not, we must have all stayed up for the halftime show. And Beyonce did not disappoint. Even if she lip-synced (which she didn’t) and challenged the definition of wholesome family entertainment (which she did, leaving husbands and sons drooling), the woman did give an electric performance with her all female band and back up dancers. I did the math on her age (31) and 16 year career and figured that while her friends in middle school zoned out in front of the TV, she was ready to perform in it!
As her curvaceous silhouette emerged on a platform to own the stage, the voice over paid homage to her tireless perfectionism: “Excellence must be pursued, it must be wooed, with all of one’s might and every bit of effort that we have.” Some of us older than her 31 years would do well to say with equal conviction this quote from her pre-show interview, “All the things that I’ve done have prepared me for this. I’m ready. This is what I was born to do.”
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201 697 1947
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Glamour Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

24 Jan 2013
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits, Iconic Women
Tags: Billy Holiday, Jazz Classics, Old Hollywood Glamour photography
Everything is funny as long as it happens
to somebody else.
Will Rogers

Billie Holiday’s signature gardenias in the hair inspired this Goddess’ portraits. (I, too, had a thing for pretty flowers in my hair until the big hair chop.) Lady Day’s classic tunes include “Good Morning Heartache,” “What A Little Moonlight Can Do,” and “Ain’t Nobody’s Business If I Do.” While her love affairs were numerous and complicated, pain and loss inspired her song writing–plus strength of character grown from not being beholden to another:
There ain’t nothing I can’t do
or nothing I can say
that folks don’t criticize me.
But I’m going to do
just as I want to anyway
And don’t care just what people say.
If I should take a notion
to jump into the ocean
Ain’t nobody’s business if I do.
If I go to church on Sunday
then cabaret all day on Monday
Ain’t nobody’s business if I do.
Click on “Leave a Comment” above left to share how you know what’s right for you. xoxox



xoxox
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Text 201 697 1947
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Glamour Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

10 Jan 2013
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits, Women's Empowerment
Tags: emotional health and wellness, no new year resolutions, women and travel
Travel is like flirting with life saying,
“I would stay and love you, but I have to go…
This is my station.”
Lisa St. Aubin de Teran

I travel only with carry-on luggage–when I can sneak excess books and shoes into my husband and kids’ suitcases! 😉 Like the great Helmut Newton, I avoid heavy equipment and (try to) work out of one bag. I warn the kids that when they grow up, I will visit their homes with just a toothbrush. Even if they designate their guest closet to me, what to do with baggage that railroads us with feelings of anger, guilt, and regret?
Sally Kempton of “Meditation for the Love of It” shares her ritual:
1. Write a few words or the story of the incident that bothers you, including what was said and done. Describe your feelings as objectively as possible.
2. Write what comes to mind in answer to the question: What do I need to relieve this bottled up energy?
3. Tear up or burn this paper as a symbolic gesture of release and say a blessing of thanks for the gifts painful feelings bring.
Practice this act of kindness anytime you feel confused, uncertain or ashamed–certainly a gentler alternative to beating ourselves up. May we remember that all experiences serve to grow our strength, compassion, and understanding. Happy New Beginnings! Did you know TGIF actually means “Thank Goddess I’m Fabulous!”?
Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share what helps you move forward in life with ease.
xoxox



© Sharon Birke
PowerfulGoddess@me.com
201 697 1947
www.PowerfulGoddess.com
Glamour Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

xoxox
27 Dec 2012
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits, Women's Empowerment
Tags: 50 Shades of Grey Theme, gifts for him, unique personalized gift idea
After all these years, I finally had an orgasm–
but my doctor told me it was the wrong kind.
from Woody Allen’s film “Manhattan”

Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele’s steamy romance would have gone with the wind if it started in our coast last week. Hurricane Sandy swept through my ‘hood swirling far more than 50 Shades of Grey clouds and moods: From people who were grateful to be spared losses, appreciative of a “back to basics” experience, and those with frayed nerves hanging on to the end of their rope, making do with less or without.
No cellphone nor internet connection for erotic messaging. No heat in the red room–or any color room for that matter–though there was a wide range of pain from living without the conveniences we take for granted. No local hardware store open to sell rope for mundane emergencies. No escaping the bind of kids who were thrilled to be out of school a whole week! And don’t get people started on the damage to their hearth and home, the curse of cabin fever when there’s no place to go with dubious sources of gas and food.
I appreciate how disaster brings people together though. On any given week, we’d be running around relentlessly, too busy with our important lives. Last week, everything came to a halt and we had to stay close to home, chill with family and neighbors, sharing what wasn’t spoiled in the pantry and lending a hand where it was needed. It was a reminder of simple pleasures, the importance of being face to face with community, the strength of resilient spirits and what matters. (What DID people do before electricity and the internet?)
After all that togetherness, there was mixed emotion when the lights finally came back on–BIG THANKS to the gentlemanly crew from Georgia who traveled far to fix our downed power lines. Who says we don’t need a hunk of a hero to bring heat back to our lives?
Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share how pain clarifies what matters to you.



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Text 201 697 1947
www.PowerfulGoddess.com
Photography for the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

xoxox
19 Dec 2012
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits, Women's Empowerment
Tags: "Elfing" gift giving tradition, unique personalized gifts for him and her
Some of God’s greatest gifts
are unanswered prayers.
Garth Brooks

Looking back on 2012, what do you count among your best gifts? My favorite is the freedom to choose what to put my attention on: the highs, the lows, the blessings, the lack, the closed doors and the ones I have yet to knock on. After the unbearable loss of innocents last week, what might be the purpose in the seemingly senseless pain we suffer? The indomitable human spirit grows even stronger when we ponder: How might we spin pain into gold, transform wounds into wisdom, find courage for forgiveness and compassionate action?
Big questions can overwhelm and healing takes time so for now, thank Goddess for community that helps us embrace our emotions, pick up the pieces and begin to remember that there might be a gift in every experience. To keep our attention on the present and the good we can do in the face of helplessness, a Powerful Goddess recommends the “Elfing” tradition of spreading holiday cheer. Leave a surprise package of goodies at the front door of your friends and family (with a note suggesting they do the same to to others.) Make the tradition your own by doing someone a kindness unbeknownst to the recipient.
May we see the gifts of 2012 with gratitude no matter what. May they move us closer to a place of peace, of seeing the wisdom at every turn, of expanding our ability to be gentle with ourselves and present to the people who matter.
Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share:
How will I remember 2012 best?
What/Whom did I welcome (back) into my life?
How far did I travel–in miles, in accepting myself and in creating possibilities?
Have the most meaningful of holidays!
xoxox
Sharky




© Sharon Birke
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201 697 1947
www.PowerfulGoddess.com
Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

xoxox
12 Dec 2012
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits, Posing Guide for Portraits
Tags: Anna Karenina period costume, How To Pose for Photographs, personalized holiday gift for him and her
Like charity,
I believe glamour should begin at home.
Loretta Young

What makes the cast of Anna Karenina look regal aside from their crisp military uniforms, sumptuous ballgowns and those dang corsets? The same thing that makes you look good without clothes on: Good posture.
With the holidays upon us, I stepped in front of the camera to demonstrate how to pose for better party and Facebook photos of your own. (I can’t be the only one who likes to look slimmer without the pain of exercise, no?) Ruffles and leggings are my comfy uniform, a nod to the romance of another time I’d love to live in–except I love modern plumbing better.
1. Roll Over Slouching–like pajamas and sweatpants–is so very comfortable but never flatters. Take a moment to roll your shoulders back and pick up your neck before the photographer clicks the shutter.
2. Swan Neck Tilt the chin forward and down to shave off that double chin.
3. Arm Ham Lifting your upper arm a tad away from your body could trim an inch off. Bend elbows and rest your hand on waist (or behind) to show your curves. When posing with a girlfriend, do her a kindness by covering her upper arm with your relaxed hand. When posing with your husband, have him rest his hand over your arm–not the girlfriend’s.
4. Chin to Shoulder Give the photographer your favorite side. Instead of facing the camera directly, look over your shoulder for a slimmer view of your torso.
5. Lean To Me When you’re looking at the camera over your shoulder, tilt your upper body slightly forward to balance the size of your face with your upper arm.
6. S Curves Who needs another stiff in a group photo? At least tilt your chin an inch or pop a hip to one side.
7. Very Skinny If you must face the camera directly, rest hands above your natural waistline to give the illusion of a more narrow waist.
8. Point That Toe Take a hint from a trick that spawned an entire dance industry (and heel fetish!) Pick up the heel of your front foot to elongate the leg. This also pushes your hips back to look smaller.
9. Live on the Edge Instantly diminish potbelly by sitting at the edge of your seat even when party gossip isn’t that enthralling. This makes it easy to lengthen your torso instead of sinking into the sofa cushions.
10. Mystery Smirk A smile with relaxed lips and a twinkle in the eye keeps everyone guessing what naughtiness you’ve been up to all year. Sssshhhh–A gentlewoman never tells!
Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to add your own posing tips here.



© Sharon Birke
201 697 1947
PowerfulGoddess@me.com
http://www.PowerfulGoddess.com
Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother
06 Dec 2012
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Art and Crafts, Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits
Tags: Bergdorf Goodman blog, BG Follies 2012 Holiday Windows, Holiday Party Haute Couture Dresses, What to do in NYC
You can’t fool me–
There ain’t no Sanity Claus!
Fiorello (Chico Marx)
What era would I love to relive? Take a guess from my favorite holiday windows at Bergdorf Goodman. The BG Follies of 2012 are inspired by the Ziegfeld Follies, Vaudeville revues and Hollywood classics. Imagine spending more than a year (never mind the $$$) of letting your imagination run wild, making your fantastic visions come true? I say “That ain’t work!!!”
Bergdorf’s blog shares behind the scenes video and photos of the art process of their obsessive old world craftsmen at http://blog.bergdorfgoodman.com. Click on “Leave a Comment” to share: What would your daughter do if she saw mom kissing Santa?

Act I. By Request An all girl orchestra (in Marc Jacobs, Philip Lim, Elie Saab, etc) pays homage to Bill Wilder’s Marilyn Monroe and her silver ukelele in “Some Like It Hot.” This window is my absolute fave with its bird’s eye view of glamorously dressed women having a grand old time practicing their craft.

Act II Naughty and Nice is a tribute to burlesque performer Sally Rand, inventor of the risque fan dance, covered in thousands of white feathers meticulously constructed into an all white mosaic.

Act III A Cast of Thousands showcases a collection of mid-century miniature American mannequins (once used for display merchandising and sewing practice) as 1920s Ziegfeld Follies girls on fifteen miniature stage reproductions made from replica 18th-Century wood moulding.

Act IV Daredevils Inspired by cartoonist Rube Goldberg is Fifth Avenue’s novelty act featuring a runway look from Sarah Burton for Alexander McQueen’s Spring 2013 collection. Every surface is covered in gold and silver leaf while 24 plaster dogs perform every trick under the sun.



Act V Finale Approximately 1,000 individually beveled mirrors create this kaleidoscope set into motion by 7 separate rotating motors. A homage to Busby Berkeley’s overhead kaleidoscopic camera shot seen in Footlight Parade, complimented by Naeem Khan gowns that mimic Berkeley’s famous waterfall number.
ps Bergdorf’s fabulous windows are on display through January 3 if you’d like to join their Instagram contest.

© Sharon Birke
201 697 1947
PowerfulGoddess@me.com
www.PowerfulGoddess.com
Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother
29 Nov 2012
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits, Women's Empowerment
Tags: Dance of Deception by Harriet Lerner, Film Noir Bond Girl Look, Skyfall 007 James Bond Women
I lie to myself all the time.
But I never believe me.
S. E. Hinton in “The Outsiders”

Inspired by Skyfall and the women who inhabit the world of James Bond, here’s a film noir series (with a splash of red because I can’t help myself) and an excerpt from Harriet Lerner’s “Dance of Deception:”
In the name of “truth” we may hurt friends and family, escalating anxiety nonproductively, disregarding the different reality other people have chosen for themselves, and moving a situation from bad to worse. We lie or keep a noble silence to escape disapproval and censure, to avoid complication or having our disclosure used against us, to keep our emotions at bay, or to protect ourselves. We believe our choice to be honorable, constructive, at times even acting on “higher” principles of loyalty and solidarity when it appears to protect the greater good.
When we are not clear about what we think, feel and believe, when our priorities and life goals are not our own, when our behavior is not aligned with our professed values, we are not “centered,” “grounded,” or in touch with ourselves. As a result, we cannot be fully present in our most important relationships.
Our failure to live authentically and to speak truly may have little to do with evil or exploitative intentions. Pretending reflects deep prohibitions, real and imagined, against a more direct and forthright assertion of self. It stems naturally from the false and constricted definitions of (wo)manhood that we often absorb without question. Pretending helps us cope and survive, to suspend moral judgements about what is good and bad, better or worse, so we can think objectively about a difficult subject. Pretending can also be an indirect move towards the truth. In feigning love or courage, we may discover that it does exist–or that we can enhance our capacity for it. Pretending can be a form of experimentation or imitation that widens our experience and sense of possibility, reflecting a desire to find ourselves in order to be ourselves.
Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share who defines what is true and what is real for you?

xoxox

© Sharon Birke
201 697 1947
PowerfulGoddess@me.com
www.PowerfulGoddess.com
Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother

xoxox
21 Nov 2012
by Powerful Goddess Portraits by Sharon Birke of DoubleSmart LLC
in Boudoir Photography, Glamour Portraits, Women's Empowerment
Tags: fine art nude, Marilyn Monroe Look, unique personalized gifts for him and her
Silent gratitude isn’t much use to anyone.
Gladys Browyn Stern
For those who don’t care for turkey, how about a more unique fine feathered friend?
While cozying with my daughter in bed this evening, she mused, “I must have done something good in my past life to have the family that I have today.” How did she get so wise, so young? I tell her everyday how lucky I am to have her and my thoughts meander to how richly blessed I am by the women who generously share their beauty and stories here, by blog readers who add sunshine to my days with happy comments, by family, friends and clients who support and inspire me in countless ways. Your praise and appreciation for my art feeds my soul and warms my heart! THANK YOU deeply, truly, sweetly!
xoxox
Sharky
Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share whom you are thankful for.

p.s. Extra special thanks to a most thoughtful blog fan, Mountain, who shared this poem of gratitude. They say when you see “Anonymous” or “Author Unknown,” it usually means a woman wrote it. (And as my daughter likes to add with the drama of suspense learned from mystery theater, “OR IS IT?!”)
Be thankful you don’t already have all that you desire,
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don’t know something
For it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations
Because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge
Because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes
They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you’re tired and weary
Because it means you’ve made a difference.

It is easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are
also thankful for the setbacks.
Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles
and they can become your blessings.
Author Unknown

© Sharon Birke
201 697 1947
PowerfulGoddess@me.com
www.PowerfulGoddess.com
Portraits of the Goddess in Every Wife & Mother
xoxox
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