Myth Masque

If one is lucky,

a solitary fantasy can totally transform

one million realities.

Maya Angelou

 

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Erin Layne, the glamorous organizer of the Myth Masque

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Just got back from an incredible weekend in LA catching up with family and friends, reflecting on our life journeys, leaving me shaking my head in amazement as we recounted stories of improbable synchronicity that had blessed us in dire straits.

After watching The Great Gatsby movie on Saturday night, I felt like I stepped straight into a more fantastic version of a Gatsby party when I chanced upon the 2nd annual Myth Masquerade Ball.  I thought I was headed for The Edison club downtown, but my curiosity drew me to the church behind it with purple lights and loud music streaming through the windows. A queue of people in fancy whimsical dress at the gate and a horse carriage ride circling the block roped me in even further.

“Is this party open to the public?” I inquired. A fairy godfather appeared with a spare ticket to sell–then he gave me a mask, too, in case the party police required one. How lucky can a Goddess get?!

Myth Masque was my dream come true of a party, an enchanting mix of high fashion and high fantasy.  I was thrilled to be swept into a sea of elaborate gowns, headdresses and costumes, each more ornate than the next from space age to renaissance to fairy tale.  Polling those with the most fantastic ensembles, many were proud to say they had created their own outfit. It was a glorious celebration of divine imagination–for where would civilization be without this?  Thank you to all who made that unforgettable evening happen, a most richly satisfying visual dessert that had me smiling all night and long after.

Click on “Leave a Comment” to share how you’ve embraced the impossible–like I did using my iPhone for very low light photography here.

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The truly Bella Electric Strings Trio

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And a full moon added to the magic, too!

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Great Gatsby

I thank God everyday for my life

and you would, too.

Alexis Bellino, Real Housewife of Orange County

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Can’t wait to see The Great Gatsby movie as I love the high style and ebullience of the flapper era.  If I had a dedicated suitor who woos me with lavish parties and treats, my husband beware! 😉

As an observer of human nature like Nick Carraway, I am impressed to hear about a plain and plump mother of four (obviously not this Powerful Goddess here) who lives in a creaky old house with one bathroom.  I asked, “Is she happy?”– thinking that for all my optimism, I need certain comforts.  I was assured she glows from being adored by her affectionate children and husband, holding hands even when they watch TV and still spooning as they sleep after 30 years together.   I think of how some women with greater material wealth live with far less contentment and I’m reminded of what I call “The Great Leveler”–our tendency to compare and make ourselves miserable dwelling on what isn’t, what we don’t have, what can’t be.  And we’re not just comparing ourselves with next door neighbors these days.  Reality TV raises the bar each week, fueling our discontent with indulgent husbands and the fairytale lifestyles of “Real Housewives.”

Great Leveler or not, there is some comfort in knowing that we actually hold the key to our bliss.  In every moment, we have the power to choose gratitude and seek the gifts of what is, what we have, and what can be regardless of what life brings.

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Secret Garden

My mother buried three husbands,

and two of them were only napping.

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I love Spring!  Each bloom and bud a reminder that I, too, know instinctively how to grow, that there is wisdom in being patient with my own seasons, that I can choose to move towards the light with no time to waste worrying whether my petals are too big or if I’m the best bloom in the garden.

From Deepak Chopra’s classic The Book of Secrets:

It is very freeing to know that on some dimension or other, every event in life can be causing only one of two things:  Either it is good for you, or it is bringing up what you need to look at in order to create good for you.  There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities.

Evolution is win-win.  Cause and effect aren’t just linked, they are linked in the most efficient way possible.  Many good things come from bad decisions while many bad ones are tangled up in our good decisions.  Life is self-correcting in just this way.  As the choice-maker you can act on a whim; you can follow arbitrary or irrational paths.  But the underlying machinery of consciousness doesn’t alter.  It keeps following the same principles, which are:

To adapt to your desires

To make you aware of what you are doing

To show you the consequences of your action

To keep everything in balance and harmony

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The Origin of Shoes

My shoes are so high that when I step out of them

people ask “Where did she go?”

and I have to say, “I’m down here.”

Marian Keyes

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Before Manolo Blahnik, Christian Louboutin, or Jimmy Choo, here is an ancient story of how shoes came to be invented from Coming to Our Senses by Jon Kabat Zinn:

Once upon a time, a princess took a walk and stubbed her toe on a root sticking out in her path.  Vexed, she went to the prime minister and insisted that he draw up an edict declaring that the entire kingdom should be paved in leather so no one would ever have to suffer her pain.  Now the prime minister knew that the king always wanted to please his daughter in any and every way, so there was a good chance he would actually want to fulfill his daughter’s wishes.  Covering the kingdom in leather might save everybody from the indignity of stubbed toes and make the princess happy, but this could also be problematic in many ways, to say nothing of expensive.

Thinking quickly (I won’t say “on his feet”), the prime ministers responded:  “I have it!  Instead of covering the whole kingdom in leather, Your Highness, why don’t we craft pieces of leather shaped to your feet and attach them in some suitable way?  Then, we will still enjoy the sweetness of the earth, yet wherever you go, your feet will be protected when it touches the ground.”  The princess was well pleased so shoes came into the world and much folly was averted.

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Song of the Flower

I am a kind word uttered and repeated

By the voice of Nature;

I am a star fallen from the 

Blue tent upon the green carpet.

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I am the daughter of the elements

With whom Winter conceived;

To whom Spring gave birth; I was

Reared in the lap of Summer and I

Slept in the bed of Autumn.

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The plains are decorated with

My beautiful colours, and the air

Is scented with my fragrance.

As I embrace Slumber the eyes of 

Night watch over me, and as I

Awaken I stare at the sun, which is

The only eye of the day.

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I am the lover’s gift; I am the wedding wreath;

I am the memory of a moment of happiness;

I am the last gift of the living to the dead;

I am a part of joy and a part of sorrow.

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But I look up high to see only the light,

And never look down to see my shadow.

This is the wisdom which man must learn.

Kahlil Gibran

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Fresh From the French Press

The best thing about London

is Paris.

Diana Vreeland

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Who says your closet is the only place to find something to wear for glamour portraits?  This Powerful Goddess looked in her mailbox instead!  The day’s headline happened to be perfect for this charming British native who has been a hip Parisienne in the past decade.  I huffed and puffed struggling to keep up with her boundless energy as she zipped nonstop through venues that were meaningful to her.  Then she headed off to pick up the kids from school and assume the mommy hat (beret?) the rest of the day.  How does she do it?  All I know is that I needed a giant nap afterwards!

With her cheerful optimism, there’s no guessing that this brave woman is in the middle of a life transition that would throw others into a tizzy.   I am in awe of the courage and strength packed in her petite frame, her ability to graciously welcome another stage of growth, exploring career possibilities while juggling her roles as woman and mother.   One of the great blessings of my work is meeting inspiring women like her and being appreciated for the love I put into what I do.   She told me she adores photos with the 70’s finish so I gave her portraits that faded polaroid look.  A very special hug and merci beaucoup to this Powerful Goddess for showing me the true meaning of “Avec plaisir!”
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Feminine Mystique in History

I have a brain and a uterus

and I use both.

Patricia Schroeder

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“I’m the best cook and baker.  I love to clean the kitchen and do the laundry.  My husband will be so lucky!”  My daughter beams.  I squelch the “Yikes!” I feel inside and smooth the wrinkle between my eyebrows.  My mom once sported a chic bob with a thriving banking career that helped send 5 children to college.  Now she looks like a farmer’s wife with hair as long as the skirt ordained by the fundamentalist religion my dad has adopted since they retired.   How innumerable have a woman’s choices grown since the days of illiteracy and candlelight?   How few do we consider possible for ourselves anyway?  And how strong is our need to tell others what we believe is right for them?  All for their own good, of course!

To bring to a close Women’s History Month, I thought I’d pick up on a conversation Betty Friedan started half a century ago in her book “The Feminine Mystique”–which remains relevant despite certain biases in perspective.  Staying home has become an option even for men.  Women can choose to be single, childless, work, pay someone to  have or raise her kids.  We may make our own money yet our financial independence remains hostage to the sway of media and commerce that thrive on feeding our fears and insecurities.  As for personal fulfillment, who really wants to be that responsible?  It’s far more convenient to blame someone or something else for the choices we (don’t) make.  So the mystery continues…

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to give a big hug to the teacher or advocate who ignited your power to choose and write your own history.

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Second Chances

The great gift of family is to be intimately acquainted with

people you would not introduce yourself to,

had life not done it for you.

Kendall Hailey

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“What are you reading?”, my husband inquired.  It completely escaped me that the title of this Powerful Goddess’ memoir might make any spouse nervous:  Eat, Drink and ReMarry.    I wanted to tease him that if I were seriously considering such an option, I wouldn’t advertise it!  But he looked like he needed some reassuring so I explained that I’m reading this because my work is beyond beauty that is skin deep.  I am about beauty grown from strength through resilience.  I believe such beauty blossoms even more when we affirm each other’s choices in our journey home to self trust.

And Stacey Tucker’s courage in sharing her  life story is true inspiration!   I’ve always appreciated how divorce and remarriage expand our capacity for love.  Stacey’s guidebook for second marriages confirms this while lending a witty and comforting hand to women navigating new beginnings, those striving to make peace with the emotional quagmire of  the past.   Thank Goddess time and distance are on our side when it comes to revealing the humor and wisdom of our travails and distresses!  Thank you, Stacey, for generously giving of yourself through your book and gorgeous portraits here, for being a powerful example of our ability to prevail no matter what, and for the potent reminder that we do know what is best for ourselves if we we take the time to listen to our truth–and not to the opinion of (m)others.

See Stacey’s books and blog on www.StaceyLu.com and click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share how you’ve traded second guessing for second chances.

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Art of Perfection

Don’t wait.

The time will never be just right.

Napoleon Hill

Another week of the kids home (I’ve counted no school every six weeks!) always makes me swear I want to be a teacher–if only for the holiday calendar.  After a day at the Met, my daughter swears she’s never going back to any museum the rest of her life.

I wanted (her) to see Matisse:  In Search of True Painting, a virtual slideshow of how an artist’s work evolves.   Though I prefer classical paintings and sculptures, I love modern art because it generally gives you the feeling of “Hey, I can do that, too!”     The exhibit features pairs, trios or a series of the same period, according to subject matter and theme, making sense of the multiplicity of Henri Matisse’s body of work.  You see how paintings morph through several mutations as the artist changes his mind, opening himself to experimentation and new influences.

Matisse collaborated with Matrossian, an Armenian, to photograph the various stages of his painting process.  Matisse’s The Dream is presented as he originally did in a 1940 salon:  the finished work is surrounded by pictures of the painting in progress throughout that year.  He starts with a sketch of background detail and foliage that turn fewer and larger then ultimately disappear.  The woman’s head of hair starts wavy, straightens then turns wavy again, eventually becomes a bald scalp with squiggles half a year later.  The original background detail lost itself to a simple splash of red that jolts the eye.

Who would have guessed that someone like Matisse (who was revered as one of the greatest artists of the 20th century) did not find painting easy?  He continually questioned and  reevaluated his choices, borrowing stylistic elements from other artists to render his own interpretations.  This exhibit lifts the veil to the reality behind the making of any masterpiece.  It is a necessary education for many of us who compare the “work in progress” of our lives against the magnum opus of the lifetime of others.   Art being the most fundamental metaphor of our power to create, I like being assured that we can take our time evolving, experimenting, changing our minds and choices more than a few dozen times to arrive at a final decision–final being whatever we determine it to be.  And perfection being implicit in every moment.

Matisse: In Search of True Painting is at the Metropolitan Museum of Art through March 17, 2013.

Click on “Leave a comment” (above left) to share how you’ve relaxed the standard of perfection to enjoy living and breathing the evolving masterpiece of your life.

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The Valentine Key

If I’d followed all the rules,

I’d never have gotten anywhere.

Marilyn Monroe

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My daughter dressed herself in pink from head to toe today, so excited to give her handwritten Valentine cards to 18 classmates, a couple of teachers, and a dozen more friends after school.  I asked, “And did you make yourself a Valentine, too?”  She looked away probably wondering “What for?!”

The tale of Bluebeard in Clarissa Pinkola Estes’ “Women Who Run With the Wolves” tells of a sinister figure who marries a young girl–who else can sinister figures con? 😉  Before going away on a trip, he leaves her the keys to his castle but forbids her from opening a particular door.  Of course, she had to get curious.  Only clear thinking with some help from her siblings saves her from his wrath and certain death.

Bluebeard is that voice constantly diminishing our creativity and power, insisting we are never enough, making us feel selfish when we choose to do what we want for ourselves.  Bluebeard forbids the use of the key to self awareness because it paves the path to personal freedom.  Relinquishing our natural instincts in order to appease and please others, laying aside our dreams and desires, settling for less is the carnage that lie behind that forbidden door.

For a Valentine to touch the heart (and ovaries,) answer Clarissa’s four questions about doors we are not supposed to open and rules we are not supposed to question:

1. What stands behind?

2. What is not as it appears?

3. What do I know deep in my ovaries that I wish I did not know?

4. What of me has been killed or lays dying?

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Bootylicious Destiny

I know.

In fact, I am never wrong.

Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest

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My sister recommends we declare NFL Monday a national holiday for “Not Feeling Lucid” or “Not Feeling Like (Working)” Day.  Sports enthusiasts or not, we must have all stayed up for the halftime show.  And Beyonce did not disappoint.  Even if she lip-synced (which she didn’t) and challenged the definition of wholesome family entertainment (which she did, leaving husbands and sons drooling), the woman did give an electric performance with her all female band and back up dancers.   I did the math on her age (31) and 16 year career and figured that while her friends in middle school zoned out in front of the TV, she was ready to perform in it!

As her curvaceous silhouette emerged on a platform to own the stage, the voice over paid homage to her tireless perfectionism:  “Excellence must be pursued, it must be wooed, with all of one’s might and every bit of effort that we have.”   Some of us older than her 31 years would do well to say with equal conviction this quote from her pre-show interview, “All the things that I’ve done have prepared me for this.  I’m ready.  This is what I was born to do.”

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‘Ain’t Nobody’s Business

Everything is funny as long as it happens

to somebody else.

Will Rogers

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Billie Holiday’s signature gardenias in the hair inspired this Goddess’ portraits.  (I, too, had a thing for pretty flowers in my hair until the big hair chop.)  Lady Day’s classic tunes include “Good Morning Heartache,” “What A Little Moonlight Can Do,” and “Ain’t Nobody’s Business If I Do.”   While her love affairs were numerous and complicated, pain and loss inspired her song writing–plus strength of character grown from not being beholden to another:

There ain’t nothing I can’t do

or nothing I can say

that folks don’t criticize me.

But I’m going to do

just as I want to anyway

And don’t care just what people say.

If I should take a notion

to jump into the ocean

Ain’t nobody’s business if I do.

If I go to church on Sunday

then cabaret all day on Monday

Ain’t nobody’s business if I do.

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Viva Diana Vreeland

 

A new dress doesn’t get you anywhere. 

It is the life that you are leading in the dress.

Diana Vreeland

Diana Vreeland

“I will die young…,” Diana Vreeland foretold.  This unpretty woman completely charmed me in the film documentary “Diana Vreeland:  The Eye Has to Travel.”   She reigns as THE first and unrivaled fashion editor of history, always open to the new and curious of the “Why not?”  With joie de vivre and stoic determination, she lived large in red as a fearless oracle of style and reinvention.

Born in Paris during the Belle Epoque era and educated by the world–not academics–Diana grew up with her mother’s endearment “my ugly little monster.”  This likely fueled her daring to be different and her genius in showcasing the beauty of odd features via exaggeration.  If you’re tall, wear high heels.  If you’re shy about your freckles, bare them.  She made skin and bones fashionable with the model Twiggy, dared to be the first to feature the freaky sexy lips of an unknown Mick Jagger, and insisted on an editorial spread highlighting Barbara Streisand’s big nose.

Harper’s Bazaar readers were introduced to her signature style through her colorful “Why Don’t You?” column in the summer of 1936.   Among my favorite “Why don’t you . . .” lines:

… paint a map of the world on all four walls of your boys’ nursery so they won’t grow up with a provincial point of view?

… tie an enormous bunch of silver balloons on the foot of your child’s bed on Christmas Eve?

… cover a big cork bulletin board in bright pink felt, banded with bamboo, and pin with colored thumb-tacks all your various enthusiasms as your life varies from week to week?

Vreeland’s column was an illustration of her personal credo:  Don’t live (or tell) the boring truth, be ingenious and (re)invent yourself.  Beauty to her was not just in the clothes you wear, but in the life you lead.

Dismissed by Vogue soon after the death of her husband, Diana grappled with finances and sadness.  Little did anyone guess that at 69, she was yet to begin the most successful act of her career resurrecting the Met’s Costume Institute.  Jewelry designer Kenneth Jay Lane remembers: “She made me realize the importance of positive thinking. She would say, ‘Don’t look back. Just go ahead. Give ideas away. Under every idea there’s a new idea waiting to be born.”   Jacqueline de Ribes recalls how she learned self-confidence from Vreeland while posing for Avedon portraits, “She taught me something very important that day.  She said, ‘Whatever you decide for yourself is going to be the right thing.  Don’t get influenced.'”

This style arbiter and feisty lifestyle revolutionary swore she would die young… “Maybe I’ll die when I’m 70 or 80 or 90, but I’ll be very young.”   And a legend.

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Diana at her Harper’s Bazaar office

Diana Vreeland at Harper's Bazaar

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Diana Vreeland painting by William Acton

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Diana’s orientalist style painting by Edward Murray, late 1930s

Diana Vreeland painting by Edward Murray

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Diana Vreeland by Richard Avedon

Then a photograph of her living room appeared in a magazine.  Never had I seen such profusion, so much red! Red on the floor, red up the walls, and textures, textures, TEXTURES! Plaid on top of paisley, flowered chintz next to silk stripes, and silver, tortoise, ebony, conch, gilt – a magnificent explosion in the midst of a beige decade, a world in which the worst sin was to ‘clash.’ You knew the moment you looked at Mrs. Vreeland’s living room that you had seen the future. And indeed, it eventually became the great cliché of New York décor.  – Mary Louise Wilson, introduction to D.V. by Diana Vreeland.

Diana Vreeland Living Room

Diana by George Hoyningen Huene

Diana Vreeland by George Hoyningen Huene

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Traveling Light

Travel is like flirting with life saying,

“I would stay and love you, but I have to go…

This is my station.”

Lisa St. Aubin de Teran

 

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I travel only with carry-on luggage–when I can sneak excess books and shoes into my husband and kids’ suitcases! 😉   Like the great Helmut Newton, I avoid heavy equipment and (try to) work out of one bag.   I warn the  kids that when they grow up,  I will visit their homes with just a toothbrush.  Even if they designate their guest closet to me, what to do with baggage that railroads us with feelings of  anger, guilt, and regret?

Sally Kempton of “Meditation for the Love of It” shares her ritual:

1. Write a few words or the story of the incident that bothers you, including what was said and done.  Describe your feelings as objectively as possible.

2. Write what comes to mind in answer to the question:   What do I need to relieve this bottled up energy?

3. Tear up or burn this paper as a symbolic gesture of release and say a blessing of thanks for the gifts painful feelings bring.

Practice this act of kindness anytime you feel confused, uncertain or ashamed–certainly a gentler alternative to beating ourselves up.   May we remember that all experiences serve to grow our strength, compassion, and understanding.  Happy New Beginnings!  Did you know TGIF actually means “Thank Goddess I’m Fabulous!”?

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share what helps you move forward in life with ease.

xoxox

Traveling Light by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Traveling Light by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

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xoxox

Shades of Grey

After all these years, I finally had an orgasm–

but my doctor told me it was the wrong kind.

from Woody Allen’s film “Manhattan”

Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele’s steamy romance would have gone with the wind if it started in our coast last week.  Hurricane Sandy swept through my ‘hood swirling far more than 50 Shades of Grey clouds and moods:  From people who were grateful to be spared losses, appreciative of a “back to basics” experience, and those with frayed nerves hanging on to the end of their rope, making do with less or without.

No cellphone nor internet connection for erotic messaging.   No heat in the red room–or any color room for that matter–though there was a wide range of pain from living without the conveniences we take for granted.  No local hardware store open to sell rope for mundane emergencies.  No escaping the bind of kids who were thrilled to be out of school a whole week!  And don’t get people started on the damage to their hearth and home, the curse of cabin fever when there’s no place to go with dubious sources of gas and food.

I appreciate how disaster brings people together though.  On any given week, we’d be running around relentlessly, too busy with our important lives.  Last week, everything came to a halt and we had to stay close to home, chill with family and neighbors, sharing what wasn’t spoiled in the pantry and lending a hand where it was needed.  It was a reminder of simple pleasures, the importance of being face to face with community, the strength of resilient spirits and what matters.  (What DID people do before electricity and the internet?)

After all that togetherness, there was mixed emotion when the lights finally came back on–BIG THANKS to the gentlemanly crew from Georgia who traveled far to fix our downed power lines.  Who says we don’t need a hunk of a hero to bring heat back to our lives?

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share how pain clarifies what matters to you.

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xoxox

Holiday Ole!

Some of God’s greatest gifts

are unanswered prayers.

Garth Brooks

Red Rose and Lace by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Looking back on 2012, what do you count among your best gifts?  My favorite is the freedom to choose what to put my attention on:  the highs, the lows, the blessings, the lack, the closed doors and the ones I have yet to knock on.  After the unbearable loss of innocents last week, what might be the purpose in the seemingly senseless pain we suffer?  The indomitable human spirit grows even stronger when we ponder: How might we spin pain into gold, transform wounds into wisdom, find courage for forgiveness and compassionate action?

Big questions can overwhelm and healing takes time so for now, thank Goddess for community that helps us embrace our emotions, pick up the pieces and begin to remember that there might be a gift in every experience. To keep our attention on the present and the good we can do in the face of helplessness, a Powerful Goddess recommends the “Elfing” tradition of spreading holiday cheer. Leave a surprise package of goodies at the front door of your friends and family (with a note suggesting they do the same to to others.)  Make the tradition your own by doing someone a kindness unbeknownst to the recipient.

May we see the gifts of 2012 with gratitude no matter what.  May they move us closer to a place of peace, of seeing the wisdom at every turn, of expanding our ability to be gentle with ourselves and present to the people who matter.

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share:

How will I remember 2012 best?

What/Whom did I welcome (back) into my life?

How far did I travel–in miles, in accepting myself and in creating possibilities?

Have the most meaningful of holidays!

xoxox

Sharky

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xoxox

How to Pose Ala Anna Karenina

Like charity,

I believe glamour should begin at home.

Loretta Young

Sharon Birke at www.PowerfulGoddess.com

What makes the cast of Anna Karenina look regal aside from their crisp military uniforms, sumptuous ballgowns and those dang corsets?  The same thing that makes you look good without clothes on:  Good posture.

With the holidays upon us, I stepped in front of the camera to demonstrate how to pose for better party and Facebook photos of your own. (I can’t be the only one who likes to look slimmer without the pain of exercise, no?)   Ruffles and leggings are my comfy uniform, a nod to the romance of another time I’d love to live in–except I love modern plumbing better.

1. Roll Over  Slouching–like pajamas and sweatpants–is so very comfortable but never flatters.  Take a moment to roll your shoulders back and pick up your neck before the photographer clicks the shutter.

2. Swan Neck  Tilt the chin forward and down to shave off that double chin.

3. Arm Ham  Lifting your upper arm a tad away from your body could trim an inch off.  Bend elbows and rest your hand on waist (or behind) to show your curves. When posing with a girlfriend, do her a kindness by covering her upper arm with your relaxed hand.  When posing with your husband, have him rest his hand over your arm–not the girlfriend’s.

4. Chin to Shoulder  Give the photographer your favorite side.  Instead of facing the camera directly, look over your shoulder for a slimmer view of your torso.

5. Lean To Me   When you’re looking at the camera over your shoulder, tilt your upper body slightly forward to balance the size of your face with your upper arm.

6. S Curves  Who needs another stiff in a group photo?   At least tilt your chin an inch or pop a hip to one side.

7. Very Skinny  If you must face the camera directly, rest hands above your natural waistline to give the illusion of a more narrow waist.

8. Point That Toe  Take a hint from a trick that spawned an entire dance industry (and heel fetish!)  Pick up the heel of your front foot to elongate the leg.  This also pushes your hips back to look smaller.

9.  Live on the Edge  Instantly diminish potbelly by sitting at the edge of your seat even when party gossip isn’t that enthralling.  This makes it easy to lengthen your torso instead of sinking into the sofa cushions.

10. Mystery Smirk  A smile with relaxed lips and a twinkle in the eye keeps everyone guessing what naughtiness you’ve been up to all year.   Sssshhhh–A gentlewoman never tells!

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to add your own posing tips here.

Ala Anna Karenina period costume by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

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The Follies of Bergdorf

You can’t fool me–

There ain’t no Sanity Claus!

Fiorello (Chico Marx)

What era would I love to relive?   Take a guess from my favorite holiday windows at Bergdorf Goodman.   The BG Follies of 2012 are inspired by the Ziegfeld Follies, Vaudeville revues and Hollywood classics.  Imagine spending more than a year (never mind the $$$) of letting your imagination run wild, making your fantastic visions come true?   I say “That ain’t work!!!”

Bergdorf’s blog shares behind the scenes video and photos of the art process of their obsessive old world craftsmen at http://blog.bergdorfgoodman.com.   Click on “Leave a Comment” to share:  What would your daughter do if she saw mom kissing Santa?

Mommy Kissing Santa Bergdorf Goodman Follies 2012 by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Act I.  By Request  An all girl orchestra (in Marc Jacobs, Philip Lim, Elie Saab, etc) pays homage to Bill Wilder’s Marilyn Monroe and her silver ukelele in “Some Like It Hot.”   This window is my absolute fave with its bird’s eye view of glamorously dressed women having a grand old time practicing their craft.

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Act II Naughty and Nice  is a tribute to burlesque performer Sally Rand, inventor of the risque fan dance, covered in thousands of white feathers meticulously constructed into an all white mosaic.

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Act III A Cast of Thousands showcases a collection of mid-century miniature American mannequins (once used for display merchandising and sewing practice)   as 1920s Ziegfeld Follies girls on fifteen miniature stage reproductions made from replica 18th-Century wood moulding.

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Act IV Daredevils Inspired by cartoonist Rube Goldberg is Fifth Avenue’s novelty act featuring a runway look from Sarah Burton for Alexander McQueen’s Spring 2013 collection.   Every surface is covered in gold and silver leaf while 24 plaster dogs perform every trick under the sun.

Bergdorf Goodman Follies 2012 by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

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Act V  Finale    Approximately 1,000 individually beveled mirrors create this kaleidoscope set into motion by 7 separate rotating motors.  A homage to Busby Berkeley’s overhead kaleidoscopic camera shot seen in Footlight Parade, complimented by Naeem Khan gowns that mimic Berkeley’s famous waterfall number.

ps  Bergdorf’s fabulous windows are on display through January 3 if you’d like to join their Instagram contest.

Bergdorf Goodman Follies 2012 by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

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007 Blonde Bond

I lie to myself all the time.

But I never believe me.

S. E. Hinton in “The Outsiders”

007 Bond Girl by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

Inspired by Skyfall and the women who inhabit the world of James Bond, here’s a film noir series (with a splash of red because I can’t help myself) and an excerpt from Harriet Lerner’s “Dance of Deception:”

In the name of “truth” we may hurt friends and family, escalating anxiety nonproductively, disregarding the different reality other people have chosen for themselves, and moving a situation from bad to worse.   We lie or keep a noble silence to escape disapproval and censure, to avoid complication or having our disclosure used against us, to keep our emotions at bay, or to protect ourselves.  We believe our choice to be honorable, constructive, at times even acting on “higher” principles of loyalty and solidarity when it appears to protect the greater good.

When we are not clear about what we think, feel and believe, when our priorities and life goals are not our own, when our behavior is not aligned with our professed values, we are not “centered,” “grounded,” or in touch with ourselves.  As a result, we cannot be fully present in our most important relationships.

Our failure to live authentically and to speak truly may have little to do with evil or exploitative intentions.   Pretending reflects deep prohibitions, real and imagined, against a more direct and forthright assertion of self.  It stems naturally from the false and constricted definitions of (wo)manhood that we often absorb without question. Pretending helps us cope and survive, to suspend moral judgements about what is good and bad, better or worse, so we can think objectively about a difficult subject.   Pretending can also be an indirect move towards the truth.  In feigning love or courage, we may discover that it does exist–or that we can enhance our capacity for it.  Pretending can be a form of experimentation or imitation that widens our experience and sense of possibility, reflecting a desire to find ourselves in order to be ourselves.

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share who defines what is true and what is real for you?

Film Noir 007 Bond Girl by Sharon Birke www.PowerfulGoddess.com

xoxox

© Sharon Birke

201 697 1947

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xoxox

Being Thankful

Silent gratitude isn’t much use to anyone.

Gladys Browyn Stern

For those who don’t care for turkey, how about a more unique fine feathered friend?

While cozying with my daughter in bed this evening, she mused, “I must have done something good in my past life to have the family that I have today.”  How did she get so wise, so young?   I tell her everyday how lucky I am to have her and my thoughts meander to how richly blessed I am by the women who generously share their beauty and stories here, by blog readers who add sunshine to my days with happy comments, by family, friends and clients who support and inspire me in countless ways.    Your praise and appreciation for my art feeds my soul and warms my heart!   THANK YOU deeply, truly, sweetly!

xoxox

Sharky

Click on “Leave a Comment” (above left) to share whom you are thankful for.

p.s.  Extra special thanks to a most thoughtful blog fan, Mountain, who shared this poem of gratitude.  They say when you see “Anonymous” or “Author Unknown,” it usually means a woman wrote it.   (And as my daughter likes to add with the drama of suspense learned from mystery theater, “OR IS IT?!”)

Be thankful you don’t already have all that you desire,
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Be thankful when you don’t know something
For it gives you the opportunity to learn.
Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations
Because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Be thankful for each new challenge
Because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful for your mistakes
They will teach you valuable lessons.
Be thankful when you’re tired and weary
Because it means you’ve made a difference.

It is easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are
also thankful for the setbacks.

Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles
and they can become your blessings.

Author Unknown

© Sharon Birke

201 697 1947

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xoxox

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